Are We Thermostats or Thermometers?

Then my people will live in a peaceful habitation, and in secure dwellings and in undisturbed resting places; (Isaiah 32:18)

Lisa LaFortune and the boys, Vince and Grant

Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase, “some people are like thermostats and some are like thermometers.” The former regulates the temperature of the home. On the flip side, the latter reacts to the temperature around it.

There’s a BIG difference.

Moms know that the feelings in our home respond to OUR mood, sometimes unfortunately so. As the saying goes, “If mom is not happy, no one is happy.” So, ask yourself, are you managing the spirit of your home in a way that promotes creativity, cooperation, and a feeling of wanting to be at home?

I know that I try to be aware of what this place we call home is like. I hope our home offers my sons a respite — a calm from the storm of trying to figure out the world around them. Importantly, is it a place they want to be or want to bring their friends? When they get older, will it be a place they bring their girlfriends — a place where they feel like their best selves?

Several years ago, when Grant was a baby, I read about a mom who was very picky and rigid about cleaning and picking up around the house. She realized (luckily early on) that her kids were on edge a lot and stressed if they even asked to just take out a puzzle. She wanted their home to be a place where they felt at ease. So, though difficult, she worked to change her attitude about how their house operated. Not so much to compromise her needs but to consider their needs as well. She found the balance between being a thermostat and a thermometer.

In thinking about our role as managers of the house, are we thermometers or thermostats? I have days of being both. It’s a work in progress for sure.

I hope I’m making our home a place that brings relief from the stresses in my kid’s’ lives. It’s especially important in the world they are growing up in today.

By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. (Proverbs 24:3-4)

Thanks to Lisa LaFortune at “Families! Change the World” blog.