Children


BCBC Preschool: Time to Register for Fall Classes

…in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, show yourself an example of those who believe. (1 Timothy 4:12)

Christian Preschool at Bent Creek Baptist Church offers a loving and secure space where children develop socially, emotionally, physically, intellectually, and spiritually in a Bible-based program run by a dedicated and loving staff.

It’s time to register for BCBC Preschool this fall.

We offer half-day classes for 3- and 4-year-olds. Call 828-667-1778. And check us out on Facebook.

What do parents say about BCBC Preschool?

5 stars: Not only do I love this preschool and all the great teachings. My granddaughter loves it and really wants to go everyday. That says a lot for the instructors.  (Kellie Case Whittemore)

5 stars: Both my children and my grandson attended preschool at Bent Creek — a first class mission work!   (Joe Belcher)

 


You’re Getting There, One Brave Day at a Time

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:7)

Brave mamas and papas. I used to think the “brave” referred to facing the long days, the tired babies, the relentless needs of our precious children. Teaching them and letting them go as they grow up. Braving the hard that comes with parenting and marriage.

I was wrong.

Brave mamas and papas you are brave because you’re staring Satan in the eyes each day and telling him he can not have your family. You’re standing up to the brokenness that surround your young ones. In the world and in your home. The competing themes that pull in you and your Godly intentions for your babies. We wake up every morning, and sometimes during the night, and we brave the chance that our reaction will be impatient, selfish, unloving, unkind. Whether you feel it each evening as you start the nighttime routine, or if you haven’t felt it in awhile, the opportunity for an impatient and tired response is there. But that’s not what God intended.

The Lord be with your spirit. Grace be with you. (2 Timothy 4:22)

It could be the subtle message you send your kids when you’re more concerned with updating your status on FB. The message that tells them they don’t come before others, or they’re not interesting enough.

It could be the way you treat your spouse when you’re tired and rushing to get out the door. When you ignore the moment it takes to kiss goodbye, or spend the moment being short with each other, instead of saying “I love you.” I’m guilty of this too.

It’s all disguised as a small, don’t-give-it-a-second-thought reaction to the hustle and bustle of the day.

Don’t be fooled.

This is Satan at work, slowly and systematically breaking down the safety net in your kids world. Playing with the subconscious of your spouse as they wonder why that moment wasn’t worth a friendly loving goodbye.

If we remember, God asked us to multiply, to have a family and be stewards to our little ones and to hold each other up as husband and wife. Satan would like nothing more than to tear our family down. If you suffer in your marriage, spend time reconnecting. Don’t let Satan have a clear shot at your children through a broken connection with your spouse. Pray for each other. Find time to spend together.

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (James 4:7)

If you can’t find the energy to marvel at your children no matter the age, get away for a morning and recharge your batteries. Then go back to them and stare at them closely as they tell you something about their day. It will come back to you. The wonder and amazement they bring to your heart. Think past the difficult season you might be in to where you want your family to be in the future. You’re getting there, one brave day at a time

 

Edited from Lisa LaFortune: Families! Change the World blog.


Compassion is a Dad Characteristic

Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these. (Matthew 19:14)

Dads always find the time to join us at our little tea party, even when they’re very busy. Soosh

Dads always find the time to join us at our little tea party, even when they’re very busy. Soosh

I want to share something that happened in my home recently.

My husband came downstairs from studying and says, “Well, I didn’t get much reading done just now. Keira (our daughter) and I have been having a great conversation for the last 45 minutes.”

You see, he has been studying and reading non-stop, preparing for a final exam. He could have easily told Keira he needed to study more and didn’t have time to talk. But he didn’t.

He chose her.

He chose to show her that her thoughts and words matter — that he cares about her.

He chose to invest in their relationship — to spend 45 minutes talking (and listening) with her.

Knowing my daughter, I have no doubt they had a pretty deep conversation — most likely about theology and life. It was a conversation that wouldn’t have occurred, an opportunity that would’ve been missed, if he wasn’t the amazing man and daddy that he is.

He chose her.

Investing in your relationship with your children is invaluable. It sets the foundation for your future relationship. Taking time to listen  now shows them that what they have to think and say is important to you. It assures them that when they need you, you will listen, and will actually hear them.

Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

It’s all about setting a firm foundation for a lifelong relationship with your children. So that when they reach their teens (and beyond) they will be comfortable speaking with you. Why? Because, well, that’s just how it’s always been for them.

What they say matters. No matter their age.

Invest in them. Hear them.

Choose your children every day.

Edited from Christina Courie, Families! Change the World blog


Precious Memories are Framed by Patient Parents

Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. (Psalm 127:3)

Sienna LaFortune

Sienna LaFortune

Ahhhhh. Life after a new baby, our third baby ☺️, leaves my thoughts jumbled.

I was thinking lately about how we grown-ups have a tendency to want to start and then finish things quickly, especially with kids. Do you ever forget to enjoy the process of things?

Even when we don’t have a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g. else to do in our day, we tend to rush the little ones or feel anxious over the messes they make. When that happens I ask myself, “Is my love patient and kind?”

Paul reminds us that patience and kindness are two of the nine attributes of a Christian life.

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22:23)

Young children certainly like to pause on things for longer than we might like. But rushing them just ruins the fun of it and detracts from their learning. Our model for these times is found in Psalms.

But you, O Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness. (Psalm 86:15)

I know part of my experience with this is because I’m always aware of how much longer the baby will nap, or how much time I have before the next nursing session. So, I want to make sure the boys and I complete what we are doing. But is this ruining the learning and fun? Wouldn’t it be better to take just a short break?

The blessing of our children having precious memories is framed by us as patient parents. It’s the blessing to teach them something that might shape their future selves. It’s the blessing of a full and joyous relationship. It’s the blessing of them trusting us when they make a mistake.

So, I hope we make the effort to do lots of things with our families, even though sometimes it’s hard and messy. Most of all, I hope we remember to take our time with each other, one mess at a time, one spill at a time, and one memory at a time.

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. (Ephesians 4:2)

Edited from Lisa LaFortune: Families! Change the World blog


Don’t Let Your Baby Stop You From Coming to Church

Come, my young friends, and listen to me, and I will teach you to honor the Lord (Psalm 34:11)

bficon-medIt’s not unusual to hear young parents say “I felt so frustrated; not with my baby, just with the situation. I thought, “Why should I even come to church if I spend the whole time out in the hallway or lobby?”

Bent Creek Baptist encourages parents to bring their infants and toddlers to our Sunday worship service. The presence of young ones is a sign of blessings from God. Please don’t let them be a reason for missing Sunday service.

You will not be alone as many of our members are young and just starting their own families. On any Sunday you will meet many of our parishioners holding their young loved ones while listening to the sermon.

Still hesitant? Then use the BCBC cry room located on the mezzanine directly in front of the lectern below. It’s an acoustically intimate and comfortable space, with a great view of the service. It offers a warm feeling for infants and toddlers to help ease the stress of both parent and child.

An added benefit, you will meet other young parents who have brought their children to hear the word of the Lord to support their parenting goals.

Looking forward to seeing you on Sunday at 11 am.


What Makes Mom Happy?

Let your father and mother be glad; let her who bore you rejoice.(Proverbs 23:25)

Two of a Kind. Donald Zolan

Two of a Kind. Donald Zolan

A great way to learn what your children are thinking is to ask them questions without any prompting.

Here are some questions about mom that I asked the boys.
Grant is 5-years-old and Vince is 3-years-old.

1. What is something mom always says to you?
G: I love you
V: Thank you

2. What makes mom happy?
G: A hug
V: A hug

3. What makes mom sad?
G: When I’m angry
V: Punch

4. How does mom make you laugh?
G: Tickling
V: Funny dancing

5. How old is mom?
G: 25 billion years old
V: I don’t know

6. What is mom’s favorite thing to do?
G: Play with us
V: Competition and balloon catch

7. What does mom do when you’re not here?
G: Sit around
V: Be sad

8. What is mom not very good at?
G: Running when pregnant
V: Sitting on not comfy couches

9. What does mom do for a job?
G: Taking care of us
V: Clean your room

10. What do you enjoy doing with mom?
G: Snuggling you
V: Doing a contest with me

“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace” (Numbers 6:24-26).

I loved this!!!!!

Thanks to Lisa LaFortune.


Looking Back at Trunk or Treat 2015 at BCBC

So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. (1 Corinthians 10:31)

Tom Shropshire, Burlington, Wisconsin.

Tom Shropshire, Burlington, Wisconsin.

On Saturday, October 31st, Bent Creek Baptist Church held its annual Trunk or Treat Festival.

It’s our effort to give children a chance to have fun and give their parent’s piece of mind that their children will be safe while doing it.

Enjoy these photos of your neighbors at the event.

Thanks to Doug Van Wirt for the photos.

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Pray: Lord, I Want to be a Success in Your Eyes

Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:4)

Train up a child in the way he should go, (Proverbs 22:6)

Train up a child in the way he should go, (Proverbs 22:6)

Socrates wrote, “Could I climb to the highest place in Athens, I would lift my voice and proclaim, ‘Fellow citizens, why do you turn and scrape every stone to gather wealth and take so little care of your children to whom one day you must relinquish it all?’”

This was probably later in his life since the hills around Athens aren’t that steep. Mount Parnitha, the tallest, is about 4,500 feet. But that’s another story.

More importantly, Socrates was concerned for the children of Athens. Parents were spoiling them with material goods while neglecting their spiritual and moral training.

Sounds like society today. Would you agree?

In her book, *Honey for a Child’s Heart: The Imaginative Use of Books in Family Life, Gladys Hunt tells us, “Societies do not disintegrate; families do.” “And when that happens, people run the risk of experiencing deep loneliness and disorientation as they look for someone to belong to and something worth believing in.”

It’s dispiriting that so many in our society look every which way for peace and joy (read success) — every which way but towards Jesus.

“Whether you’re part of a blended, single-parent, foster, adoptive, or traditional two-parent family, your family is important to God,” says Lisa Button. “You can ask him for anything in regard to your family as long as it’s in line with his heart, his desires . . . and essentially, his will.”

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33)

It is only through Jesus that we truly succeed. Pray: Lord, I want to be a success in Your eyes. Help me to be strong and courageous in doing Your will.

I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. (John 15:5)

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If Abortion Is About Women’s Rights, Then What Were Mine?

Through the praise of children and infants you have established a stronghold against your enemies, to silence the foe and the avenger. (Psalm 8:2)

Here are three heroes in the fight against infanticide (abortion). Gianna Jessen lives in Tennessee and Ms. Melissa Ohden in Missouri. Gianna loves music and has cerebral palsy. Melissa has a master’s degree in social work and is a wife and mother.

Gianna Jessen, left, Melissa Ohden, right, testify before the House Judiciary Committee, Sept. 9, 2015 in Washington.

Gianna Jessen, left, Melissa Ohden, right, testify before the House Judiciary Committee, Sept. 9, 2015 in Washington.

Both survived attempted saline abortions in 1977.

The third hero is Julie Roys, a reporter who explores and documents important issues facing Christians today. Her story is here.

On September 9th, Ms. Jessen and Ms. Ohden testified before the House Judiciary Committee investigating Planned Parenthood’s practice of harvesting and selling the body parts of aborted babies — even from those that may have been born alive.

“If abortion is about women’s rights, then what were mine?” Ms, Jessen asked the Committee.  “I was later diagnosed with cerebral palsy, which was caused by a lack of oxygen to my brain while surviving the abortion.”

Born after soaking five days in a toxic saline solution, Ms. Ohden miraculously survived her mother’s abortion. But, as she testified, “(I)f my birthmother’s abortion would have taken place at a Planned Parenthood, I would not be here today. Completing over 300,000 abortions a year provides them with the experience to make sure that ‘failures’ like me don’t happen.”

Pray for the babies.

The Book of Hebrews exhorts all Christians to hold fast their commitment. We must not lose heart. As Paul told the Galatians…

And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. (Galatians 6:9)

You can read the entire report from the House Judiciary Committee meeting here. Extensive coverage of the abortion issue can be found on Ms. Roys’ website. Caution, the images of babies on some of these links are heart wrenching.

Julie Roys

Julie Roys

 

 

 


Important Message for Parents from BCBC Family Ministries

We have this hope as an anchor for the soul firm and secure. (Hebrews 6:19)

Starting Sunday, September 6th…

Special pick up times from Sunday School for your child (Pre-K through 5th grade/3-10 yrs) on the following dates and times.

  • Sept. 6th: Pick up at 10:45 am
  • Sept. 13th: Homecoming Sunday
    • No Sunday School
    • All children will join us in the Sanctuary starting at 10:30 am
  • Sept. 20th and subsequent Sundays: Pick up at 10:30 am

Sunday School Nursery (birth to Pre-K through 5th grade/0-3 yrs) will stay at The Dock ( located in the brick building next to the church) for the entire service.

  • Drop off your children and sign them in at The Dock whether they are participating in Sunday School and/or the Worship Service.

If you do not participate in Sunday School…

  • Please bring your children (Pre-K through 5th grade/3-10 yrs) into the sanctuary for the worship service.
  • Nursery age children (birth to Pre-K/0-3 yrs) must be dropped off and checked in at The Dock.

Welcome bags

  • Please pick up a children’s welcome bag from The Dock information desk on your way in to the Sanctuary.
  • Read the instructions in the folder, and fill out an identity sticker for each child participating in children’s church prior to dismissal to The Dock.

Remember…

  • Children will participate in the entire music portion of worship and be dismissed afterwards.

At the conclusion of the service…

  • Please return bags to The Dock information desk.
  • You may pick up your child at The Dock.
  • You must present your child’s security number to their teacher prior to your child’s dismissal.

Thanks you for coming on board with us to make sure our children see Jesus as their anchor!


Baby Dedication: Families Within Families

And he took them in his arms and began blessing them, laying his hands on them. (Mark 10:16)

From left: Pastor Tommy, the Taylor, West, and Hyder families

This past Sunday, three families from our congregation dedicated their babies to God.

Baby dedication at BCBC is a public commitment by parents to raise their children in a Christ-centered home.

Parents and grandparents have the greatest spiritual influence in a child’s life. And home is the primary place where faith is nurtured. “Research shows that there is a connection between teens’ and parents’ religious beliefs and participation, and lower levels of risk-taking behaviors among adolescents,” says Dr. Kristin Moore, president and senior scholar at Child Trends. These lessons are learned early.

Pastor Tommy with Holly, dear Christiana (Chrissy), and Stephen Hyder

We are proud of our young families at BCBC. They are the energy of our growth and hope for the future. We are inspired as they lead and participate as elders, in worship, in early child education, during Sunday school, and in missions and outreach .

Pastor Tommy with treasured Brady, Phillip, and Jen Taylor.

If you’re looking for family-centered worship where young families take an active role leading our church, check out Bent Creek Baptist Church. Sunday school starts at 9:30 am every Sunday. Church services start at 11 am.

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Pastor Tommy with Erin, special Amelia, and Brandon West.

Call the office for more information. 828-667-9818

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thanks to Rick Shuford for the photos.


A Father’s Prayer

Dear Lord,

So far I’ve done all right

I haven’t gossiped,

haven’t lost my temper,

haven’t been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish, or overindulgent.

I’m really glad about that.

 

But in a few minutes, God,

I’m going to get out of bed.

And from then on,

I’m going to need a lot more help.

 

 

May your Father’s Day, and every day,  be filled with delight and honor in your family!

 

Morning Prayer: Author, anonymous


Are We Thermostats or Thermometers?

Then my people will live in a peaceful habitation, and in secure dwellings and in undisturbed resting places; (Isaiah 32:18)

Lisa LaFortune and the boys, Vince and Grant

Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase, “some people are like thermostats and some are like thermometers.” The former regulates the temperature of the home. On the flip side, the latter reacts to the temperature around it.

There’s a BIG difference.

Moms know that the feelings in our home respond to OUR mood, sometimes unfortunately so. As the saying goes, “If mom is not happy, no one is happy.” So, ask yourself, are you managing the spirit of your home in a way that promotes creativity, cooperation, and a feeling of wanting to be at home?

I know that I try to be aware of what this place we call home is like. I hope our home offers my sons a respite — a calm from the storm of trying to figure out the world around them. Importantly, is it a place they want to be or want to bring their friends? When they get older, will it be a place they bring their girlfriends — a place where they feel like their best selves?

Several years ago, when Grant was a baby, I read about a mom who was very picky and rigid about cleaning and picking up around the house. She realized (luckily early on) that her kids were on edge a lot and stressed if they even asked to just take out a puzzle. She wanted their home to be a place where they felt at ease. So, though difficult, she worked to change her attitude about how their house operated. Not so much to compromise her needs but to consider their needs as well. She found the balance between being a thermostat and a thermometer.

In thinking about our role as managers of the house, are we thermometers or thermostats? I have days of being both. It’s a work in progress for sure.

I hope I’m making our home a place that brings relief from the stresses in my kid’s’ lives. It’s especially important in the world they are growing up in today.http://icons.iconarchive.com/icons/rokey/the-blacy/128/red-heart-icon.png

By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established; and by knowledge the rooms are filled with all precious and pleasant riches. (Proverbs 24:3-4)

Thanks to Lisa LaFortune at “Families! Change the World” blog.


Raising Our Boys to be Men

The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit. (Proverbs 15:4)

“Oak trees don’t happen over night. Growing in grace and wisdom and stature isn’t an immediate download — it happens the way a tree grows up: over decades,” writes Ann Voskamp, author of One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are.*

Keep that visual of oak trees. Our husbands can be oak trees… when we let them. Our sons will grow into strong, sturdy, yet graceful oak trees… hopefully. The two are connected, and we (as girlfriends first, then wives and mothers) hold the key.

Yet, we swim against the tide. Today’s culture chops men down — telling them they’re neither strong, nor mighty, not even needed. Piling on, we get frustrated because we don’t have patience for them to get messy or time to try again. Why can’t they be better, learn faster, or just know?

It’s sad to watch our men (read husbands and sons) caught in this tug of war — confused and not knowing what they have to offer. If we’re raising boys to be men shouldn’t we make them proud of their natural abilities, delight in them, encourage them, and give them time to discover?

We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; (2 Corinthians 4:8)

The secret to raising boys is to show (not just teach) what it means to be a man. In their blog, Adena and Amy tell us, “In a world that constantly says men and women need to be equal, we often feel that means that as women, we need to act like men… Not so. Being a woman, which in and of itself is powerful and noble and awesome, inspires men — all the best parts of being a man: being protective; hard-working; a pillar of support; a provider who takes pride in his ability to care for his family; an example of strength, morality, right and wrong, ethics and proper behavior. These are the noble parts of being a man. If we supplant that role, deny it to our spouses, they are left as mere placeholders in the family structure.” It’s not the best example for our sons to emulate.

Let’s step back from our need to “do”. Many times each day we’re faced with the option to let him (sons and husbands) fill the shoes that are waiting for him. We are empowered to carefully select the time to accept and respect versus criticize. We have the power to choose to embrace his differences instead of rejecting and supplanting them. We have the responsibility to nourish, prune, and ultimately to love.

He is like a tree planted by flowing streams; it yields its fruit at the proper time, and its leaves never fall off. He succeeds in everything he attempts. (Psalm 1:3)

As we model this in our homes our children will grow up less confused. They’ll actually grow into strong oak trees, or a beautiful and equally needed wild flower. BONUS! http://icons.iconarchive.com/icons/rokey/the-blacy/128/red-heart-icon.png

Thanks to Lisa LaFortune at Families! Change the World blog.

*Bent Creek Baptist Church is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program. By clicking the book cover shown above your purchase of this book on Amazon will earn BCBC a fee from Amazon.com. Thank you for your support.


VBS in The Eyes of The Children

All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children. (Isaiah 54:13)

This summer, give your child the life-changing message of God’s love for them. Give them the BCBC Vacation Bible School — a week of joy and discovery.

VBS 2015 at Bent Creek Baptist Church: “The Calling: The Early Life of Jesus”.

  • When?
    • Sunday, June 14th through Thursday, June 18th, 6 to 8 pm
  • Where?
    • Bent Creek Baptist Church, 1554 Brevard Rd. Asheville, NC
  • Who?
    • All children 3 years and up.
  • Need more information?
    • Call 828-667-9818

Here, in photos from past BCBC VBS programs, see the wonder in the children’s eyes and discovery in their expressions.

VBS 2015 will teach children about the early life of Jesus through enjoyable, age-appropriate activities.

Guided by the word and vision of the Lord, VBS 2015 is written and produced by Chris Jennings, with support from the BCBC congregation and VBS parents.

There is no cost to participate, just a commitment from parents to provide a meaningful, life changing experience for your children.

Although there is no cost for this program, you must pre-register your child. To help us plan, please fill out the registration form as soon as possible.

Just click here to register.

Read more about our past programs here.

 

 


Maggie Gobran: Egypt’s Christian Angel

Open your mouth for the mute, For the rights of all the unfortunate. Open your mouth, judge righteously, And defend the rights of the afflicted and needy. (Proverbs 31:8)

Maggie “Mama” Gobran with Egypt’s poorest.

Anthony first met Maggie “Mama” Gobran in Mokattam — Cairo’s main garbage dump. His Christian family came there after radical Islamists burned their home, destroying everything they owned. It was amid the crumbling dwellings and rubbish-laden carts pulled by emaciated donkeys that Anthony met Mama. The lady in white was like an angel, showing him something he had no idea existed. Forgiveness. Dignity. Hope.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)

Maggie Gobran, now known as the Mother Teresa of Cairo, was once Professor of Computer Science at the American University in Cairo. She was married and living an affluent life in Egypt.

Then, in her thirties, Ms. Gobran’s life changed from self to selfless when God called on her to start Stephen’s Children (named after Christianity’s first martyr) and improve the lives of constantly harassed Christian (and impoverished Muslim and Bahá’í) children and families living in the impoverished communities of Cairo and Upper Egypt.

In this broken country, “God has truly blessed and given us more than we have hoped for or imagined… My prayer,” she says, “is that God will continue to draw us closer to Him through thousands of more children who still need the love of Jesus Christ.”

Ms. Gobran’s mission is not unique. Thankfully, special people in our BCBC congregation are traveling a similar path. But in the world of middle east politics, where hatred and violence always seem to trump compassion and hope, Mama’s story is important to tell.

Mama Maggie: The Untold Story of One Woman’s Mission to Love the Forgotten Children of Egypt’s Garbage Slums chronicles this amazing women’s pilgrimage to bring hope to those who are marginalized and living in the deepest depths of poverty.

 

*Bent Creek Baptist Church is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program. By clicking the book cover shown above your purchase of this book on Amazon will earn BCBC a fee from Amazon.com. Thank you for your support.

 


Worried About Your Daughter’s Boyfriends?

Love is patient and kind, (1Corinthians 12:4)

As a parent do you worry that your daughter might get involved with a boy who’s not worth her time?

ThrivingFamily.com has a litmus test she can use to screen potential boyfriends and… (oh my) a husband too!

Ask her to insert the boy’s name in 1 Corinthians 4-6.

____ is patient and kind;

____ does not envy or boast;

____ is not arrogant or rude.

____ does not insist on its [his] own way;

____ is not irritable or resentful;

____ does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. (1 Corinthians 4-6)

Accept nothing less than a score of 100%.

So pray hard and lean on the word of God. He loves your child, and He will protect her. Sometimes it takes a few years in the “wilderness”. That time will be tough for you, but God will carry her. He will carry you too.

 


The Blessings of Homeschooling

Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

Bent Creek Baptist Church will host a series of lectures that will focus on “Homeschooling Boys” and “Homeschooling ‘Just One'”.

Joins us as three veterans of homeschooling share their experiences.

Cynthia Cobb first heard about homeschooling from a friend when her oldest child was two years old. It got her thinking and taking action.

Now, 20 years later, Cynthia and her husband David have a lot of homeschooling experience. Their daughter, McKinley graduated from college last year. David is a junior in college, while William is a junior in high school, and Hudson is a freshman. Holder is in 6th grade and Asa is a 4th grader.

Mary and Duncan Dorris have five children (15 to 20 years old) they have homeschooled. Mary says she learned what she knows from those who have gone before and from living “in the trenches” everyday. Mary is a Certified Academic Language Practitioner, with a heart for encouraging moms who have children with learning differences.

Our third speaker is Cecilia Goodrum who began her homeschooling journey in 1994 when her oldest son started first grade. By God’s grace she hopes to graduate the last Goodrum child in 2017 — 23 years later! She and her husband, Richard believe that if they can homeschool, anybody can.

See you in the BCBC Worship Center TOMORROW, that’s MONDAY, March 2nd at 7 pm.


Reversing Medical Pill Abortions

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. (Psalm 127:3)

Andrea Minichini and her son Gabriel

Last year, Andrea Minichini sat in a Planned Parenthood exam room in New Jersey. She didn’t really want an abortion, but the doctor told her that the pill she was holding was expensive and would melt. So, she swallowed it and went home with a second pill she was to take 24 hours later.

Andrea’s situation is not unique, approximately 200,000 medical abortions are performed annually in the USA — almost 20% of all abortions. Medical abortions, you see, are actually performed during early pregnancy using two pills, the first is called RU-486 (mifepristone or Mifeprex), which blocks the hormone progesterone and cuts off the nutritional supply to the pregnancy, ending in the unborn baby’s death. Then, a day or two later the mother takes a second pill, misoprostol (Cytotec), which causes uterine contractions and expels the pregnancy followed by nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, hemorrhage, and intense pain lasting two to four weeks.

Now, the good news.

Andrea started to bleed and had slight cramping. She thought it was too late. Then she Googled a story about a woman in California who had a child after her medical abortion was reversed. Andrea called a 24-hour hotline (877-558-0333), and the nurse connected her to a pro-life doctor in Clark, New Jersey.

The doctor gave her progesterone injections to counteract the mifepristone, and monitored her throughout the pregnancy. Gabriel David was born Dec. 31, 2014, two days before his due date and weighing in at a healthy 8 pounds, 9 ounces.

Ms. Minichini’s son is one of 78 babies born since the first abortion pill reversal was performed in 2007. Another 49 women are still pregnant with babies saved from medical abortion. The procedure has been documented in the Annals of Pharmacotherapy.

An unplanned pregnancy can be scary and many women make decisions when they are terrified and stressed. After taking time to think about it many women would like to change their minds, but think they can’t. And nobody at Planned Parenthood is telling them.

Find our more about abortion pill reversal treatment here. Or, call this 24/7 hotline (877-558-0333) if you or someone you know is seeking immediate assistance.


Progress on the Abortion Front

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. (Psalm 127:3)

Just 34% of likely voters reported being satisfied with the current abortion policies — the lowest number ever recorded since Gallup started the poll. Respondents were twice as likely to favor policies that err on the side of restriction and caution than they were to support, looser abortion procedures.

The findings are based on telephone interviews of a random sample of 804 American adults between January 5-8, 2015.

More good news. Operation Rescue, the only pro-life organization that maintains a list of abortion facilities reports that 73 abortion facilities shut down for all or part of 2014. The total number of all remaining abortion clinics in the US is currently 739.

Femcare, Asheville shut down in 2014 for two dozen serious health and safety violations. It reopened briefly before permanently closing after its abortionist, Lorraine Cummings, announced her retirement and placed the building for sale. Unfortunately, Planned Parenthood just opened another facility at 68 McDowell Street.

Please continue to pray for the lives of the most vulnerable among us.

Parents from Tameside, Greater Manchester, UK, were left giggling after their unborn son showed a ‘thumbs up’ hand gesture a during a routine ultrasound.

 


Abortion: Resist the Great Destroyer of Love and Peace

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. (Psalm 127:3)

Monument of the Unborn Child

On January 22nd, hundreds of thousands of Americans will march in Washington to speak, pray, and bear witness to the fundamental right to life that every American citizen is entitled to.

A look at the numbers confirms that abortion is the worst domestic crime ever sanctioned by America. Since the Roe v. Wade decision in 1973, nearly 60 million (60,000,000) unborn children have been “legally” murdered.

Today, despite more than forty years of pro-abortion propaganda, half of all Americans still describe themselves as pro-life. They know that it is morally wrong and filled with consequences that extend beyond the baby to affect the doctors and mothers.

Medical considerations (A doctor’s view)

“As a doctor,” says former abortionist Anthony Levatino, “you know that these are children; you know that these are human beings with arms and legs and heads and they move around and they are very active. But you get reminded — every time you put that scanner down on somebody’s uterus — you are reminded. Because you see the children in there — hearts beating, arms flinging.”

Watch Dr. Anthony Levatino’s description of the medical procedure, and hear his conversion to a pro-life activist.

Medical considerations (The patients’ long-term consequences)

  • Hospitalized for psychiatric treatment
    • 160% more likely than delivering women in the first 90 days following abortion or delivery.
    • Rates of treatment remain significantly higher for at least four years
    • At especially high risk are teenagers, separated or divorced women, and women with a history of more than one abortion.
  • Need for psychotropic medicine
    • 8 weeks after abortion, 44% are prescribed psychotropic medicine by their family doctor.
  • Since many post-abortive women use repression as a coping mechanism, there may be a long period of denial before a woman seeks psychiatric care.

High risk of psychological problems

Love Matters, a website created to help women and men make a better choice than abortion, shares the stories of women who went into abortion thinking it was their only way out of a scary situation, only to realize it was the beginning of the worst time of their lives.

Susan Carpenter-McMillan, a spokesperson for Right to Life, tells us, “I know millions of women across this country feel as I do about abortion. We all somehow know deep down inside that we alone made a horrible decision and no coined phrase about choice and rights or the denial of biological and fetal facts can ever erase the truth. For we as mothers instinctively know during those still moments of aloneness, that we ended the life of a separate human being growing inside of each and every one of us.”

Mother Teresa said, “The greatest destroyer of love and peace is abortion, which is war against the child. The mother doesn’t learn to love, but kills to solve her own problems. Any country that accepts abortion is not teaching its people to love, but to use any violence to get what they want.”

A baby in utero at 20 weeks. As in many other states, in North Carolina this baby could be aborted.

The good news is that the U.S. abortion rate declined to 16.9 abortions per 1,000 women aged 15-44 in 2011, well below the 1981 peak of 29.3 per 1,000. But there is more work to be done. William Diono, Jr., writing about the March for Life on January 22nd, encourages us to “join them — if not by marching, then in spirit in peace and in hope, undeterred.”

 


The Importance of Group Bible Study

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another. (Proverbs 27:17)

Group fellowship is time well spent and as old as Christianity itself.

Prior to the printing press, personal quiet time was possible only for a privileged few. In fact, during the early centuries of the church overemphasis on personal (or “private”) worship was considered characteristic of the heresy of Gnosticism! For the vast majority, spiritual growth took place within the Christian community, as people gathered together to listen to and discuss God’s Word.

Today, nobody would discourage solitary Bible reading and contemplation. Christ is present when we are alone or in a group. However, there are benefits from group worship. In addition to Sunday worship services (11 am) and Sunday school (9:30 am), Bent Creek Baptist offers many opportunities for group fellowship and biblical learning.

Here’s a short list of benefits for group fellowship.

Strengthen each other’s faith

In his letter to the Romans, Paul taught us that when we see the faith in another believer, it encourages us in our own faith.

… that you and I may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith. (Romans 1:12)

Support

Small group members can provide a “safety net,” supporting each other in hard times.

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (Galatians 6:2)

Prayer

When people become connected emotionally, they are more open to praying for one another. Often, group members exchange prayer requests or become prayer partners.

Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and receive from him anything we ask, because we obey his commands and do what pleases him. (1 John 3:21-22)

Friendship

Many people, including Christians, lack close friends. When people get together in a small group, close friendships form and often remain long after the group ends.

Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work:  If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

Remember, God doesn’t expect pastors and teachers to do all the ministering. He gave each of us gifts and talents to encourage, teach, and challenge each other. Small groups provide the perfect setting for Christian ministry, one to another.

In 2015 take advantage of opportunities for group worship and learning at Bent Creek Baptist Church. Consider this an invitation to all BCBC members and our Bent Creek neighbors in the community to participate.

  • Super Super Six
  • BCBC Women’s Bible Study
  • BCBC Men’s Bible Study
  • Student Ministry
  • Awana (preschool to 6th grade)
  • Small group bible study

Call the church office for more information. 828-667-9818


Give Your Children the Gift of Jesus

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

“faith seeking understanding”

Freedom of choice is every American’s birthright. Accordingly, many American parents profess that religious truth is a matter of personal discovery. Therefore, their children should be free to discover it on their own.

It sounds so logical, so 21st century, so flawed.

Letting your daughter or son “make up” their own mind about religion is misguided because it fails to recognize how children learn to reason in the first place. Children come into this world as a chalice, a gift from the Lord waiting to be filled. If parents fail in their duty to fill that space with a strong moral foundation — guiding their children in recognizing right from wrong — others may fill it with quicksand.

Everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. (Matthew 7:26)

“Children do not choose religious identity a la carte,” says Pastor Jason Stubblefield of Narrows First United Methodist Church, in Virginia. “Letting kids make up their minds about religion implicitly makes up their minds for them… It teaches them that they have the sort of minds that ‘Enlightenment rationality’ assumes [that it’s science and rationalism that offer authentic truth].”

“It teaches them, Pastor Stubblefield continues, “that their thinking comes before God, rather than the other way around.” It reverses St. Anselm’s dictum, which contends that the theological virtue of faith lays the groundwork for all understanding. In the absence of this foundation reason becomes arbitrary rather than the imprint of our God who ordered all creation and is the architect of the minds we use to reason.

This Christmas give your children the gift of Jesus.

Join us at Bent Creek Baptist Church on Sunday, December 21st, 11:00 am for Christmas Communion Service. During this special time families in our congregation will participate in the service with their children.

Also, don’t miss our Christmas Eve service on Wednesday, December 24th, 5:30-6:30 pm.


Help Build a New Playground With the Story of Jesus Bracelet

Bent Creek Baptist Church is building a brand new playground.

Fund raising has begun. You can help while at the same time getting this beautiful Story of Jesus bracelet — a great Christmas gift for loved ones.

Using different colored beads and charms, the Story of Jesus bracelet illustrates key events in the life of Jesus Christ.

Story of Jesus Bracelet

Follow the story starting at “12 O’clock” on the photo.

  • One night: Blue Bead
  • A star in the sky: Star Charm
  • Led three wise men: 3 Beads
  • To the birth of Jesus: Pearl
  • Who grew up to be a carpenter: Wood Bead
  • And fisher of men and souls: Fish Charm
  • He called 12 disciples to spread the Gospel of Christ: 12 Beads
  • Throughout the world: Earth Bead
  • One dark day of hatred, fear and envy: Black Bead
  • They crucified him: Cross Charm
  • He shed his blood: Red Bead
  • To purify us of our sin: Crystal Bead
  • On the third day, he arose: Angel Charm
  • He ascended in heaven: Light Blue Bead
  • Where he sits, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit: 3 Unique Beads
  • He did this because of his great love for us: Heart Charm

Each bracelet costs $26 dollars, with 10 dollars going directly to the playground fund. The rest is to pay the jeweler and postage.

Order by December 7th and you will have your bracelet(s) by Christmas.

Checks may be written to BCBC. Write “Jesus Bracelet” on the memo line. You may give your payment to Stephen Hyder or to Linda Stewart in the church office.

Also, contact Stephen Hyder (828-633-0621 or stephenandholly@gmail.com) for more information about the bracelet.

Thank you for your support.


Contribute to Operation Shoebox

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. (Psalm 127:3)

It’s world’s largest Christmas project of its kind, Operation Christmas Child uses gift-filled shoeboxes to demonstrate God’s love to needy children around the world.

Since 1993, this Samaritan’s Purse project has collected and delivered more than 113 million gift-filled shoeboxes to children in more than 100 countries.

Shoebox gifts are collected in the United States, Australia, New Zealand, Canada, Finland, Germany, Japan, Spain, and the United Kingdom. More than 500,000 volunteers worldwide, including more than 100,000 volunteers the United States, are involved in the program.

Bent Creek Baptist enthusiastically supports Operation Shoebox. National Collection Week starts November 17th, with Monday the 24th being the final day to deliver boxes to the church. A volunteer from the church will then see that the boxes are sent to the appropriate distribution center for shipping around the world.

Click here and here to see the impact of Operation Shoebox around the word.


Bent Creek Baptist is Getting a New Playground

He took a little child and had him stand among them. Taking him in his arms, he said to them,  “Whoever welcomes one of these little children in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me does not welcome me but the one who sent me.” (Mark 9:36-37)

BCBC to Get New Swingset

BCBC to Get New Swingset

The Bent Creek Baptist Church Preschool Program got started in 1969. Since then an average of 50 students per years have been taught about Jesus, cared for and loved by our volunteers.

Now, BCBC Preschool is getting a brand new playground. Fund raising has begun, and our goal is to have the new playground in place by the beginning of 2015.

We have prayed and planned to replace the current playground area with two new playground sets — one for the 4-year-olds and up, and one for the 2-3-year-olds so all age groups in the preschool & church can enjoy the new equipment. The current playground is 30+ years old, and in serious need of updating.

Here’s how you can help.

Anyone and everyone can donate! Spread the word, and help us fund raise. Remember, 100% of all donations go to the playground, and are 100% tax deductible. Bent Creek Baptist Church is a non-profit group.

If you have questions contact Stephen Hyder (828-633-0621 or stephenandholly@gmail.com) or Sam Bennett (828-713-4569 or sam@bentcreekbaptist.org). If you want to help volunteer with our fundraiser please contact us as we need your help. We pray that when we eat, drink, love on our kids, fund raise, or whatever we do, that all our actions big or small are for God’s glory!

Make all donation check payable to “Bent Creek Baptist Church”, with “for playground” written on the memo line.

There’s More!

Support the fund raising effort by ordering T-shirts. Order forms are located at the front desk. The deadline for ordering is Wednesday, December 17th.

Children and youth T-shirts cost $10 each. Adult T-shirts are $15 each.

Thanks for your support.


BCBC Supports Samaritan’s Purse Christmas Shoe Box

Children are a heritage from the LORD, offspring a reward from him. (Psalm 127:3)

If you are interested in donating to this ministry, please bring your shoe box to the church by Monday, November 24! (Brochures are at the Information Desk!)

Suggested items to include in the box:

  • Toys: Include items that children will immediately embrace such as dolls, toy cars, stuffed animals, kazoos, harmonicas, yo-yos, jump ropes, balls, toys that light up and make noise (with extra batteries), etc.
  • School Supplies: pens, pencils and sharpeners, crayons, markers, notebooks, paper, solar calculators, coloring and picture books, etc.
  • Non-Liquid Hygiene Items: toothbrushes, bar soap, combs, washcloths, etc.
  • Accessories: t-shirts, socks, hats, sunglasses, hair clips, jewelry, watches, flashlights (with extra batteries), etc.
  • A Personal Note: You may enclose a note to the child and a photo of yourself or your family

More about Samaritan’s Purse Christmas Shoe Box program is part of Operation Christmas Child. More information is here.

And here.

 

 


Sharon Gibson of Home School Legacy Will Speak at BCBC

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

Homeschool-legacyOn Monday, November 3rd, 7:00 pm BCBC will host a meeting for parents who are homeschooling or considering homeschooling their children.

Our special speaker will be Sharon Gibson of Homeschool Legacy.

The goal of Homeschool Legacy is to bring glory to God and help parents instill a love of learning in their children. No-prep Once-a-Week Unit Studies are designed to make life easier, help your children have more fun learning, and parents to have more fun teaching!

More about Ms Gibson and here program can be found here.

A review of Once-a-Week unit studies by Ms. Gibson is here.

 


Teen Sexual Culture: Increasingly Responsible

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4)

db58_fig1It’s one of the great success stories. Yet, you probably haven’t heard it.

Over the past two decades there have been extraordinary declines in teen pregnancy (down 42%) and teen childbearing (down 49%). The good news is found in all 50 states and every racial/ethnic group — all have made significant progress. In fact, as shown in the graph at right, birth rates have declined almost continuously since 1957.

Many will say that abortion and birth control are the driving forces in the decline in teen births. Yet, the facts paint a different picture. Both contraception and abortion have been constants over time, and contraceptives are often not even used. The new factor in the equation is more effective and widespread abstinence education.

Even more positive, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) National Survey of Family Growth, acknowledges that “the proportion of teen girls and women who are ‘sexually experienced’ has been falling for 20 years.”

Here are some related facts to consider.

  • Abstinent teens have better academic performance (higher GPAs and improved verbal and numerical aptitude skills) than sexually experienced teens.
    • Abstinent teens display better associated social benefits (stronger peer relations, positive youth development, and awareness of the consequences of risky behavior, such as teen pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases) than sexually experienced teens.
  • Condom use does not prevent any of the 49 sexually transmitted diseases (STD) present today (up from 3 STDs in the 1960s); it merely reduces the risk of transmission.
    • And about 75% of teens say that they didn’t use contraception the last time they had sex. So to claim declining teen births is due to contraceptive usage is unlikely.
  • Cohabitation increases the risk of nonmarital births.
  • The CDC agrees that abstaining from sexual activity is a reliable way to avoid transmission of STDs.
    • Overall, 17 of the 22 abstinence studies evaluating virginity pledges reported statistically significant positive results.

Based on the evidence, everyone should promote risk-avoidance programs that lead to these positive outcomes for America’s youth.

Hopefully, these findings will support parents that uphold Christian standards in the face of popular culture.


School Supplies for BCBC Preschool

Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. – See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Back-to-school#sthash.LF0EkC1U.dpuf

 

Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. – See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Back-to-school#sthash.LF0EkC1U.dpuf

 

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your path straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

You can help our preschool get free supplies!

giftcard_090208Go to the information desk and sign up to link your Ingles Advantage Card to Bent Creek Preschool. Each time you shop we will earn supplies for the preschool.

Remember, you must sign up each year in order for your Advantage Card to connect with BCBC Preschool.

Thanks for your support.