Men


Men, Take Time for Spiritual Renewal

They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. – See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Fellowship,-Among-Believers#sthash.LttyGEnM.dpuf

They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. – See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Fellowship,-Among-Believers#sthash.LttyGEnM.dpuf
They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. – See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Fellowship,-Among-Believers#sthash.LttyGEnM.dpuf

They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. (Acts 2:42)

The annual BCBC Men’s Retreat will take place September 16-17 at Balsam Lake Lodge.  If you can’t make it for the whole weekend, come for part. Call Aaron Creasman (828-777-1272) if you are interested.

Remember, when men take time out for spiritual renewal, the whole church benefits.

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Balsam Lake Lodge

During the 2016 BCBC Men’s Retreat at Balsam Lake Lodge you’ll catch fish, hike the beautiful North Carolina mountains, eat hamburgers, and — most importantly — be spiritually renewed and refreshed as you share key truths and new perspectives in your walk with Jesus Christ.

Men, take this opportunity to develop unity through fellowship.

Best of all, the benefits continue long after the first fish is caught and last hamburger is eaten. Relationships at home become more positive and hopeful when you find renewal in God.

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

Join us on Friday, September 16th  to Saturday the 17th  for the BCBC Men’s Retreat.

Speak with Aaron Creasman, or call the church office for more information. 828-667-9818

And, remember you must sign up at the information desk in the church lobby. Space is limited for this event!


Compassion is a Dad Characteristic

Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these. (Matthew 19:14)

Dads always find the time to join us at our little tea party, even when they’re very busy. Soosh

Dads always find the time to join us at our little tea party, even when they’re very busy. Soosh

I want to share something that happened in my home recently.

My husband came downstairs from studying and says, “Well, I didn’t get much reading done just now. Keira (our daughter) and I have been having a great conversation for the last 45 minutes.”

You see, he has been studying and reading non-stop, preparing for a final exam. He could have easily told Keira he needed to study more and didn’t have time to talk. But he didn’t.

He chose her.

He chose to show her that her thoughts and words matter — that he cares about her.

He chose to invest in their relationship — to spend 45 minutes talking (and listening) with her.

Knowing my daughter, I have no doubt they had a pretty deep conversation — most likely about theology and life. It was a conversation that wouldn’t have occurred, an opportunity that would’ve been missed, if he wasn’t the amazing man and daddy that he is.

He chose her.

Investing in your relationship with your children is invaluable. It sets the foundation for your future relationship. Taking time to listen  now shows them that what they have to think and say is important to you. It assures them that when they need you, you will listen, and will actually hear them.

Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

It’s all about setting a firm foundation for a lifelong relationship with your children. So that when they reach their teens (and beyond) they will be comfortable speaking with you. Why? Because, well, that’s just how it’s always been for them.

What they say matters. No matter their age.

Invest in them. Hear them.

Choose your children every day.

Edited from Christina Courie, Families! Change the World blog


Faithfulness Matters Because it Matters to God

A faithful man will abound with blessings, (Proverbs 28:20)

It’s reported that quarterback and SEC commentator Tim Tebow broke off a relationship with Olivia Culpo, a former Miss Universe, whom he dated since October. So what, you say? Apparently, Ms. Culpo left Mr. Tebow because he refused to have premarital sex with her.

Unless you’ve lived under a log for the past 8 years you know that Mr. Tebow is an outspoken, committed Christian. Arguably better known for his steadfast faith than his accomplishments, including winning football’s Heisman Trophy as a college sophomore.

Here’s the thing. The news of the break-up comes from gossip columns. So, it’s hard to know what’s truth and what’s spin. But, if it’s true, then we are fortunate to have him as a role model for young Christian men in today’s hyper-secular society.

No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Mark Tapson, writing in Acculturated — Pop Culture Matters, concludes, “That’s no small thing in today’s world, particularly for a handsome young man in the sexually charged world of celebrity. Not only that, but it points to his strength of character and his trustworthiness to act according to principle in every other aspect of his life.”

The same day the breakup was reported, Tim posted this Tweet:

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, his love endures forever. (Psalm  118)


A Father’s Prayer

Dear Lord,

So far I’ve done all right

I haven’t gossiped,

haven’t lost my temper,

haven’t been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish, or overindulgent.

I’m really glad about that.

 

But in a few minutes, God,

I’m going to get out of bed.

And from then on,

I’m going to need a lot more help.

 

 

May your Father’s Day, and every day,  be filled with delight and honor in your family!

 

Morning Prayer: Author, anonymous


Raising Our Boys to be Men

The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit. (Proverbs 15:4)

“Oak trees don’t happen over night. Growing in grace and wisdom and stature isn’t an immediate download — it happens the way a tree grows up: over decades,” writes Ann Voskamp, author of One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are.*

Keep that visual of oak trees. Our husbands can be oak trees… when we let them. Our sons will grow into strong, sturdy, yet graceful oak trees… hopefully. The two are connected, and we (as girlfriends first, then wives and mothers) hold the key.

Yet, we swim against the tide. Today’s culture chops men down — telling them they’re neither strong, nor mighty, not even needed. Piling on, we get frustrated because we don’t have patience for them to get messy or time to try again. Why can’t they be better, learn faster, or just know?

It’s sad to watch our men (read husbands and sons) caught in this tug of war — confused and not knowing what they have to offer. If we’re raising boys to be men shouldn’t we make them proud of their natural abilities, delight in them, encourage them, and give them time to discover?

We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; (2 Corinthians 4:8)

The secret to raising boys is to show (not just teach) what it means to be a man. In their blog, Adena and Amy tell us, “In a world that constantly says men and women need to be equal, we often feel that means that as women, we need to act like men… Not so. Being a woman, which in and of itself is powerful and noble and awesome, inspires men — all the best parts of being a man: being protective; hard-working; a pillar of support; a provider who takes pride in his ability to care for his family; an example of strength, morality, right and wrong, ethics and proper behavior. These are the noble parts of being a man. If we supplant that role, deny it to our spouses, they are left as mere placeholders in the family structure.” It’s not the best example for our sons to emulate.

Let’s step back from our need to “do”. Many times each day we’re faced with the option to let him (sons and husbands) fill the shoes that are waiting for him. We are empowered to carefully select the time to accept and respect versus criticize. We have the power to choose to embrace his differences instead of rejecting and supplanting them. We have the responsibility to nourish, prune, and ultimately to love.

He is like a tree planted by flowing streams; it yields its fruit at the proper time, and its leaves never fall off. He succeeds in everything he attempts. (Psalm 1:3)

As we model this in our homes our children will grow up less confused. They’ll actually grow into strong oak trees, or a beautiful and equally needed wild flower. BONUS! http://icons.iconarchive.com/icons/rokey/the-blacy/128/red-heart-icon.png

Thanks to Lisa LaFortune at Families! Change the World blog.

*Bent Creek Baptist Church is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program. By clicking the book cover shown above your purchase of this book on Amazon will earn BCBC a fee from Amazon.com. Thank you for your support.


Meeting the Need for Friendships Among Men

That we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine. (Romans 1:12)

Clarence Shepard Day, Jr.: An American author, best known for his 1935 work Life With Father.

Research shows that the key to a long, happy life is not diet or exercise but strong social connections — in other words, friendships.

Yet, men are not good at this. Their inability to bond with other men even has a name — Male Deficit Model. Male friendships are less intimate than female friendships, and because there’s greater interpersonal competition, men experience lower friendship satisfaction.

“Most men,” according to psychologist Stuart Miller, “don’t let themselves think or feel about friendship; this immense collective and personal disappointment is usually concealed, sloughed over, shrugged away.” Moreover, “The older we get, the more we accept our essential friendlessness.” It’s not good psychologically. It’s also not good physically, with a correlation between loneliness and the activity of certain genes associated with systemic inflammation, which raise the risk for viral invasion and cardiovascular disease.

Surprisingly, married life does not appear to be a cure for loneliness. An Australian Study showed that family relationships have almost no impact on longevity. Friendships, by contrast, boost life span up to 22%.

What’s a man to do?

How about joining a church and becoming active in men’s activities? Here at BCBC the Men’s Ministry Outreach program provides opportunities for men to interact and bond. Outreach programs such as our work with ABCCM, as well as the men’s retreat, and sporting events are available.

Also, men might consider participating in the Men’s Bible Study on Sunday night at 6 pm at the church. We discuss the bible, with a focus on issues that matter to men, in the company of other men.

Here’s your invitation to join us. For more information about men’s activities at BCBC call the church office 828-667-9818. You man call Aaron Creasman (828-777-1272) or email Brent Besosa brent@4outdoorsmen.net of the Men’s Ministry. And Dale Butler dale@bentcreekbaptist.com of the Men’s Bible Study group would love to hear from you.

 


Men’s Bible Study: Promise to Change

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. (Proverbs 27:17)

Robert Mankoff, 1999

There’s a classic New Yorker cartoon of a man and woman having dinner. He says, “Look, I can’t promise I’ll change, but I can promise I’ll pretend to change.”

Fortunately for us, God isn’t interested in our self-perceived limits. He’s not interested in our personal narrative or the one that others construct for us. He’s interested in us, hiding behind a vernier, suffering and inflicting suffering on others, having a bad day (and good one).

Jesus is willing to meet us where we are. Tullian Tchividjian, the grandson of Ruth and Billy Graham, tells us, “Jesus is not the man at the top of the stairs; He is the man at the bottom, the friend of sinners, savior of those in need of one. Which is all of us, all of the time.”

But we have to reach out. Bent Creek Baptist Men’s Bible Study is more than a place to meet and discuss the Bible. Using the Bible as our anchor, it’s a place to reexamine our faith and our lives in our families, our work, and personal life. It’s a time for stories and sharing thoughts. A time for fellowship.

Men must strive for more than shallow relationships. Men must be ready to answer the call of God as one body. BCBC Men’s Bible study is a good way to start.

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.  By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” (John 13:34-35)

Men’s Bible Study begins again in January 25th at 6 pm. Members and neighbors, join us in the pastor’s office in the Bent Creek Baptist Worship Center.


March for Marriage

Marriage by God’s design is the union of one man and one woman. (Genesis 2:18)

every-child-deserves-mom-dad-elvertbarnes-flickrYesterday (June 19th) was the second annual March for Marriage. Organized by the National Organization for Marriage (NOM), the event served as a platform for Americans to make their voices heard on behalf of marriage as the union of one man and one woman. The number of people who gathered in front of the Supreme Court was in the “thousands,” according to Jennifer Marshall at The Heritage Foundation.

You may remember that Proposition 8 was passed in 2008, with over 7 million votes (52%), to amend California’s State Constitution to define marriage as the union of one man and one woman. It was the second time Californians had voted to preserve the definition of marriage. Despite this, the US Supreme Court upheld a subsequent legal challenge at the state level that invalidated the outcome of the vote.

 

Most news coverage about the NOM event and traditional marriage has been negative. It’s popular to claim that those who support the March for Marriage are on the “wrong side of history.” Yet, despite court rulings, the debate is not over. The issue is not settled. (more…)