Men’s Ministry

Men, Take Time for Spiritual Renewal

They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. – See more at:,-Among-Believers#sthash.LttyGEnM.dpuf

They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. – See more at:,-Among-Believers#sthash.LttyGEnM.dpuf
They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. – See more at:,-Among-Believers#sthash.LttyGEnM.dpuf

They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. (Acts 2:42)

The annual BCBC Men’s Retreat will take place September 16-17 at Balsam Lake Lodge.  If you can’t make it for the whole weekend, come for part. Call Aaron Creasman (828-777-1272) if you are interested.

Remember, when men take time out for spiritual renewal, the whole church benefits.


Balsam Lake Lodge

During the 2016 BCBC Men’s Retreat at Balsam Lake Lodge you’ll catch fish, hike the beautiful North Carolina mountains, eat hamburgers, and — most importantly — be spiritually renewed and refreshed as you share key truths and new perspectives in your walk with Jesus Christ.

Men, take this opportunity to develop unity through fellowship.

Best of all, the benefits continue long after the first fish is caught and last hamburger is eaten. Relationships at home become more positive and hopeful when you find renewal in God.

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

Join us on Friday, September 16th  to Saturday the 17th  for the BCBC Men’s Retreat.

Speak with Aaron Creasman, or call the church office for more information. 828-667-9818

And, remember you must sign up at the information desk in the church lobby. Space is limited for this event!

BCBC’s Men’s Retreat: Everything You Need to Know

Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love. (Corinthians 16:13-14)

Reserve your place at the BCBC Men’s Retreat, October 2nd through 4th at Camp Truett in Hayesville, North Carolina.

Meet Our Guest Speaker

Tim Bennett

Tim Bennett

Tim Bennett: Born and raised in Western North Carolina, Tim has resided most of his adult life in Birmingham, Alabama, where he works as an IT director at AT&T.  He has been married to Laura for 29 years, and is father to five children, ranging in age from 26 to 12. He is a ruling elder in his home church, and is a regular speaker and facilitator at WellSpring Ministry events. (

Says Tim, “Raised in the church, I came to know the Lord at a very young age. But, for the first 30+ years of my life, I took a very “me” centered approach to the Christian life.  I would now call it a “bootstrap” theology, where I believed that faith in Christ was sufficient to save me, but it was basically up to me after that.”

In 2000, Tim became friends with Bob Flayhart, his current pastor, who exposed him to a simple and powerful model of the Gospel that has changed his life — The Gospel Waltz. There’s too much to describe in this brief introduction, but one significant thing it did was flip his “bootstrap” theology on its head. The Gospel Waltz illustrates how the “Present” power of the Gospel (the same power that redeemed us), is also working to change us.  The model has helped me to understand how that plays out in life on a daily basis. This has transformed the way I lead my family and shepherd our flock.

Summary for the Weekend Activities

The Gospel Waltz: The writer of the hymn “Rock of Ages” understood the full power of the Gospel.  The first verse says:

Let the water and the blood,

From Thy wounded side which flowed,

Be of sin the double cure,

Save from wrath and make me pure.

How often do we trust the Gospel for the first part of that cure (Save me from wrath), but take the second part (Make me pure) exclusively on our own shoulders?  Do not misunderstand, there is absolutely an aspect of the second part that is volitional in nature, but we also must recognize the power of the Gospel to change us as well.  The Gospel Waltz is simply an analogy/framework/model… to help demonstrate how the power of the Gospel plays out in real life.

Session 1:  Bootstraps & Idols: During the weekend, before getting too deeply into the Gospel model, we will spend some time talking about what rules our hearts. At the level where the rubber meets the road — in the living rooms, workplaces, and church hallways of life — what really controls our hearts? When our hearts are preoccupied by something other than God, we will filter life’s circumstances through the lens of what it is that we most want or want to achieve.

Session 2:  The Gospel Waltz (Repent-Believe-Fight, 1-2-3, 1-2-3): The Gospel Waltz is simply a model that compares the Christian life to a dance. Like its real-world analogy, the Gospel Waltz is a 3-step (Repent-Believe-Fight). Also like its real-world analogy, it begins with the music. In this case, the music is the situation or circumstance in life that moves us to take the first step. Some songs are very long. Some songs are very hard to dance to. At times it can seem impossible… but it can be life-changing and enjoyable as well.

Session 3:  The Orphan Waltz (Surrendering to the love of the Father): There is also an alternate waltz that we tend to dance. It’s also a 3-step. It begins with the same music, but the outcome is very different. The difference is in what we believe. In this alternate “Orphan Waltz,” we believe the lies of the enemy instead of the truth about the love of the Father.

Session 4:  Application at a personal and ministry level (The music of the waltz and the power of the fellowship): This is the most exciting part of the weekend.  We will use the model to examine practical scenarios and discover how the Gospel plays out in real life.  We will also talk about the power of the fellowship as we experience and give encouragement in the hardest parts of the dance.

Weekend Approach

For each session, we will start off with worship, followed by teaching, then a pertinent movie clip: 1 hour.

After the movie clip, we will release everyone to a time of solitude and silence to pray and respond to some reflective questions:30 minutes.

During dinner we will sit in teams and share what the Lord is revealing to each of us.

Join us. You can sign up at the information counter in the Worship Center lobby.

Sign up Now! Time for the Men’s Ministry Retreat!

And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. (Ezekiel 36:26)

This will be awesome! Mark your calendar!

Then, reserve your place at the BCBC Men’s Retreat, October 2nd through 4th at Camp Truett in Hayesville, North Carolina.

Our guest speaker is Tim Bennett.* Tim is actively involved in leading men’s ministry and will share his dynamic insights on battling for men’s hearts.

Tim Bennett

Tim Bennett

We’re looking forward to what Christ has planned and there is space for 30 men to join us!

Tentative Schedule

Friday, 10/2/15



1 to 5 PM:

  • Arrive, hangout, fellowship
  • The Great Cornhole Cornament!

5 to 6 PM

  • Cook team cooks, while the rest of us practice patience.

6 to 7 PM

  • Patience is rewarded grandly, with a manly meal of hamburgers, hotdogs, chips, and coleslaw.

    Manly hotogs

    Manly hotdogs

7 to 9 PM

  • Tim Bennett leads praise and worship, plus Q&A on heart issues.

9 PM

  • Fellowship ’till whenever.

Saturday, 10/3/15

Lake Chatuge

Lake Chatuge

7 to 8 AM

  • Cook team readies breakfast, while the rest of us practice patience.

8 to 9 AM

  • Manly pancakes

    Manly pancakes

    Patience is rewarded grandly, with a manly meal of pancakes, bacon, coffee, and more.

9 to 10:35 AM

  • Tim Bennett leads praise and worship with Q&A.

10:35 to 1 PM

  • Fellowship and manly activities
    • There is a great lake for boating, canoeing, kayaking, and fishing.
    • Skeet shooting (tentative), hiking
    • Practice your slider.

      Practice your slider.

      The Cornhole Cornament continues!

1 to 2 PM

  • The gastronomic feast continues with sandwiches and chips.
  • Cook your own fish if you catch ’em.

2 to 3:30 PM

  • Tim Bennett leads praise and worship with Q&A.
Smoked pork tenderloin

Smoked pork tenderloin

4 to 7:30 PM

  • Cook team cooks while the rest wait patiently.
  • Patience is rewarded grandly, with smoked pork tenderloin, smoked beans, potato salad, corn-on-the-cob. Somebody bring toothpicks!

4 to 7:30 PM

  • Hangout, fellowship, and…
  • Crowning the Cornament Cornstar!image

7:45 PM

  • Dinner and fellowship.

Sunday, 10/4/15

7:30 to 8:30 AM

  • Breakfast: Bagels, cereal, and manly pastries

    Manly pastries

    Manly pastries

8:30 to 10 AM

  • Richard Glass leads praise and worship, with devotional.

10:30 AM

  • Hasta la vista.


*Tim Bennett is a an elder at the Oak Mountain Presbyterian Church, in Birmingham, Alabama. He leads a ministry called Battle for Men’s Hearts and has taught classes in Switzerland. Tim is planning to teach in South Africa next year. We look forward to hearing his thoughts during the men’s retreat.

Camp Truett is located at 346 Truett Camp Road, Hayesville, NC 28904.

For more information contact Brent Besosa at

Sign up in the worship center lobby, or call the church office (828-667-9818) for more information.

The cost is $50 per person. That includes your room, fellowship, activities, meals, even cornhole! Bring your own sheets, pillow, or sleeping bag.

God bless!

We proclaim Him, admonishing and teaching everyone with all
wisdom, so that we may present everyone fully mature in Christ.
(Colossians 1:28)


Mark Your Calendars for Adult Ministry Events

And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another. (Hebrews 10:24-25)

Essential features in the life of the church are active Men’s Ministry, Women’s Ministry, and ministry programs for seniors. The heart of BCBC rests on the passion and spiritual maturity of our men and women in Christian fellowship and service.

Please mark your calendars and join us during 2015. More information will be published on this site as we get closer to the events.

Men’s Ministry activities for 2015

  • January 15th: Asheville Buncombe Community Christian Ministries (ABCCM)
    • Join us to help prepare dinner, offer fellowship and service
  • February 28th: Pole Creek Outdoorsman Banquet
  • April 18th
    • Skeet Shooting
  • June 7th
    • Breakfast and Bible School Training
  • August 29th
    • Tailgate Party
  • October 2nd to 4th
    • Men’s Retreat
  • December 5th
    • Men’s Ministry Breakfast

Women’s Ministry activities for 2015

  • February 21st: Embrace, Connect, Serve
  • April 25th, all day: Book and Bake Sale in the frame building
    • Fiction, non fiction, children, travel, devotional, cooking, ebook covers,and puzzles (with all pieces).
    • Baked good and muffins
      • Contributors should bring them to the frame building on Friday 24th, 6-7pm
    • Come try The Bent Creek Blend coffee!
  • May 29th – 31st, all day
    • Women’s Spring Retreat
  • July 10th, all day
    • Beth Moore in Greenville, SC
  • August 29th, all day
    • Church-wide Family Tailgate Party
  • September 12th, all day
    • Fall Retreat at BCBC
  • October 20th, all day
    • Soup and Salad Dinner
  • December 12th, all day
    • Christmas Tea

Senior activities sponsored by our Young at Heart Sunday School members.

  • March 6th, 2015, Friday, 4:00 pm
    • Mark Lowery & The Martins get together
  • March 21st, 2015, 4:00 pm
    • Chili/Potato Bar and Desserts
  • March 29th, 2015, Sunday
    • 5th Sunday Night Gospel Singing
  • April 18th, 2015, Saturday, all day
    • Narroway Theater
  • June 1st, all day
    • Hymn Sing at The Cove

The Men and Women's Ministry teams want to make sure that we have your updated information. Keep up-to-date with upcoming events by completing the form below. Then click to submit the info to John Russo. Thanks, and God Bless.

Meeting the Need for Friendships Among Men

That we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine. (Romans 1:12)

Clarence Shepard Day, Jr.: An American author, best known for his 1935 work Life With Father.

Research shows that the key to a long, happy life is not diet or exercise but strong social connections — in other words, friendships.

Yet, men are not good at this. Their inability to bond with other men even has a name — Male Deficit Model. Male friendships are less intimate than female friendships, and because there’s greater interpersonal competition, men experience lower friendship satisfaction.

“Most men,” according to psychologist Stuart Miller, “don’t let themselves think or feel about friendship; this immense collective and personal disappointment is usually concealed, sloughed over, shrugged away.” Moreover, “The older we get, the more we accept our essential friendlessness.” It’s not good psychologically. It’s also not good physically, with a correlation between loneliness and the activity of certain genes associated with systemic inflammation, which raise the risk for viral invasion and cardiovascular disease.

Surprisingly, married life does not appear to be a cure for loneliness. An Australian Study showed that family relationships have almost no impact on longevity. Friendships, by contrast, boost life span up to 22%.

What’s a man to do?

How about joining a church and becoming active in men’s activities? Here at BCBC the Men’s Ministry Outreach program provides opportunities for men to interact and bond. Outreach programs such as our work with ABCCM, as well as the men’s retreat, and sporting events are available.

Also, men might consider participating in the Men’s Bible Study on Sunday night at 6 pm at the church. We discuss the bible, with a focus on issues that matter to men, in the company of other men.

Here’s your invitation to join us. For more information about men’s activities at BCBC call the church office 828-667-9818. You man call Aaron Creasman (828-777-1272) or email Brent Besosa of the Men’s Ministry. And Dale Butler of the Men’s Bible Study group would love to hear from you.


Men Shooting Clays

Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. (Proverbs 27:17)

Here’s a great way to share fellowship among men. Join the Men’s Ministry this Saturday. November 8th at 1:00 pm for a “Target Practice” outing and closest to the pin golf.

All men from BCBC are invited, and you may invite your friends. Cost is to be determined but will be $20 to $25 per person to cover the cost of supplies and food.

All shotguns and ammo will be provided. DO NOT bring your own. Those who insist on showing off their latest iron will be asked to keep their firearms locked in their vehicles.

Hot dogs and fixin’s will be served. If you want anything else like a chair, bring it.

Here’s the important stuff to remember

  • 1. We will provide the guns & ammo.  Please don’t bring your own.  This is just a safety precaution.
  • 2. If you want to bring your golf clubs go ahead.  If not we will have some.  We will also have a lot of golf balls.
  • 3. This event is BYOC (Bring your own chair). We will have a few tables for the food & guns but if you want something to sit in bring your lawn chair.
  • 4. We will be meeting at the church & leaving from there at 1 pm.  This is an attempt to keep everyone from getting lost.
  • 5. If you can’t make it by then come on out when you have the chance.  Just give one of us a call.

See you at the church at 1 pm!