Defining “Effective” Evangelism

But He said to them, “I must preach the kingdom of God to the other cities also, for I was sent for this purpose.” – See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/evangelists,-ministry-of#sthash.oeSHdTqH.dpuf

But He said to them, “I must preach the kingdom of God to the other cities also, for I was sent for this purpose.” – See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/evangelists,-ministry-of#sthash.oeSHdTqH.dpuf


But He said to them, “I must preach the kingdom of God to the other cities also, for I was sent for this purpose.” – See more at: http://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/evangelists,-ministry-of#sthash.oeSHdTqH.dpuf

But he said, “I must proclaim the good news of the kingdom of God to the other towns also, because that is why I was sent.” (Luke 4:43)

Donald McGavran

Donald McGavran (1897 – 1990)

Donald McGavran was a missionary and Founding Dean of the School of World Mission, at Fuller Theological Seminary, in Pasadena, California. He spent his career as a missiologist, studying the interaction of the gospel and church with culture in order to identify and overcome barriers to effective evangelism and Christian conversion.

His findings challenged and changed the way missionaries identify and prioritize groups of people for missionary work today. His writings also influenced the successful evangelism of Pastor Rick Warren at the Saddleback Church in Orange County, California. (more…)

Your New Year’s Resolution: Give the Best You Have

I can do everything through Him who gives me strength. (Philippians 4:13)

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough.
Give the best you’ve got anyway.

You see,
in the final analysis it is between you and God;
it was never between you and them anyway.

This is the day the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it. (Psalm 118:24)

This prayer is often associated with Mother Teresa. The original was authored by Kent Keith.

Fellowship Begins With an Invitation

And he said to them, “Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation. (Mark 16:15)

FellowshipIn his book, Evangelism in the Early Church, Michael Green reminds us that when Jesus was crucified there were only 11 men left to carry on his work and bring the gospel to the entire world!

Undistinguished, poorly educated, and with no influential supporters, they were nobodies living in a second-class province on the Roman frontier.

How could they possibly succeed? And yet, they did. By one estimate, Christianity grew from about 1,000 believers in 40 AD to 5 to 8 million in 300 AD — a growth rate of 40% per decade and the dominant religion of the Roman Empire! Today, Christianity is the world’s largest religion, with about 2 billion followers.

The rise of a secular judgmental culture challenges our efforts to spread the Good News. When it comes to discipleship, today’s church-going American Protestants often struggle in their efforts to share Christ with non-Christians. A recent survey of 2,930 Protestant churchgoers in the US revealed that a majority agreed it’s their duty to share their faith. Yet, over the preceding six months just 25% had shared their faith once or twice, 14% had shared at least three times.

The survey also asked how many times they personally “invited an unchurched person to attend a church service or some other program” at their church in the last six months?

  • 48% of church attendees responded, “zero”
  • 33% had personally invited someone one or two times
  • 19% at least three invitations

Inviting someone to join you in attending church is probably the easiest form of outreach. And it may be one of the most effective based on the findings from a survey of 15,000 Americans who were asked to list the best of 13 approaches when a church wants to be heard.

Getting them to visit a church:

  • 67%: a personal invitation from a family member would be very/somewhat effective
  • 63%: a personal invitation from a friend or neighbor would be very/somewhat effective

Get them to receive information about a local congregation or faith community:

  • 63%: very/somewhat willing when it comes from a family member
  • 56%: very/somewhat willing when it comes from a friend or neighbor

Bent Creek Baptist has a history of commitment to missions and community outreach. As we gear up to increase our efforts it might be best to remember that a simple straightforward invitation to come to church is one of our best God-given tools.

That said, please consider this an invitation to our neighbors living in the Bent Creek area, as well as residents in Buncombe and Henderson Counties to join us for Sunday worship service at 11 am.

Pray for Revival

Will you not revive us again, that your people may rejoice in you? (Psalm 85:6)

Open Heavens

Open Heavens

We should not be surprised to learn that spiritual factors play a major role in the growth of a church. Gary McIntosh, Director of the Doctor of Ministry program at the Talbot School of Theology, has observed that members of growing churches show a spiritual passion to find the lost and involve newcomers. They have a desire to fulfill the Great Commission as instructed by Jesus.

Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. (Matthew 28:19-20)

Join us as we pray for revival in Bent Creek Baptist Church and throughout Asheville. Meet with Pastor Tommy in the church library for prayer on Wednesday evenings at 6:30 pm. Call the church office for more information. 828-667-9818

Christ: “First Instance” of the New Man

That Christ may make His home in your hearts through faith. (Ephesians 3:17)

The Sower. Vincent van Gogh (1888)

The Sower. Vincent van Gogh (1888)

“Perhaps a modern man can understand the Christian idea best if he takes it in connection with Evolution,” suggests C. S. Lewis in Mere Christianity.

The process of evolution in literature and cinema is dominated by creatures that develop great brains and mastery over nature. “But I,” says Lewis, “cannot help thinking that the Next Step will be really new.” Lewis suggests that the greatest leap in evolution occurred about 2000 years ago with the birth of Jesus. We are living it today, and unlike earlier stages we have a choice to latch on, or not.

For creatures in earlier days, the inability to evolve amounted ultimately to a creature being lost over time — extinction. Today, our failure to respond to Christ’s offer of eternal life will cause us to lose a prize that is, in the strictest sense of the word, infinite.

C. S. Lewis believed. “Until we rise and follow Christ we are still parts of Nature… Her pregnancy has been long and painful and anxious, but it has reached its climax…  Now, the Doctor has arrived. Will the birth (this new life) go off all right?” We have the option to stay in the dark and the warmth of the womb — a tempting choice, but with death as the reward.

There is another way.

And this is what he promised us — eternal life. (1 John 2:25)

For many (2.2 billion, worldwide) this new option is being taken. We are here and there all over the earth. Some, are hardly recognizable: but others can be clearly perceived, with voices and faces that are stronger, quieter, happier, more radiant.

Our lives begin where most others leave off and must not be confused with the character of “religious people” gleaned from secular proclamations. Children of God do not draw attention to themselves. They love you more than other men do, but they need you less. Moreover, announcements of our demise are disappointing, not for us but because we know that time is short for those who fail to evolve.

Live your life. But as you do, take time to look for Christ. Do it, and you will find Him, and “with Him everything else thrown in”.

Behold, the LORD’S hand is not so short that it cannot save; nor is His ear so dull that it cannot hear. (Isaiah 59:1)

Want to learn more? Then, go to church this Sunday.

Do more. Go to Sunday School.



Peace is Possible

The Lord gives his people strength. The Lord blesses them with peace. (Psalm 29:11)

Small Rhythmic Landscape. Paul Klee (1920)

Small Rhythmic Landscape. Paul Klee (1920)

In a world of constant conflict and suffering, is there any hope for peace?


In the Bible, God promises that peace is possible. He promises peace so extraordinary that it “surpasses all understanding”.

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7)

Through meaningful worship, the study of selected Scriptures, and small group opportunities, we will trust God to help us discover:

  • Peace with God
  • Peace with ourselves
  • Peace with others
  • Peace when our world is shaken
  • Peace with death and dying

Never forget…

If you ask Me anything in My name, I will do it. If you love Me, you will keep My commandments.…(John 14:15)

Don’t Let Your Baby Stop You From Coming to Church

Come, my young friends, and listen to me, and I will teach you to honor the Lord (Psalm 34:11)

bficon-medIt’s not unusual to hear young parents say “I felt so frustrated; not with my baby, just with the situation. I thought, “Why should I even come to church if I spend the whole time out in the hallway or lobby?”

Bent Creek Baptist encourages parents to bring their infants and toddlers to our Sunday worship service. The presence of young ones is a sign of blessings from God. Please don’t let them be a reason for missing Sunday service.

You will not be alone as many of our members are young and just starting their own families. On any Sunday you will meet many of our parishioners holding their young loved ones while listening to the sermon.

Still hesitant? Then use the BCBC cry room located on the mezzanine directly in front of the lectern below. It’s an acoustically intimate and comfortable space, with a great view of the service. It offers a warm feeling for infants and toddlers to help ease the stress of both parent and child.

An added benefit, you will meet other young parents who have brought their children to hear the word of the Lord to support their parenting goals.

Looking forward to seeing you on Sunday at 11 am.

Free Prayer in a Coffee Shop

Then He said to His disciples, “The harvest is plentiful, but the workers are few.”  (Matthew 9:37)

Pastor Thomas Rusert

Pastor Thomas Rusert

Every Thursday morning Pastor Thomas Rusert sits with a cup of coffee at local shop in Doylestown, Pennsylvania. Next to him a little sign reads, “Free Prayer”. And he waits to see whom God will send his way.

At first there was hesitation. “I went in with fear and trembling,” he remembers. “I put the sign up, put my nose into a book — I was afraid to make eye contact.” Eventually, the Lord sent many “customers” to his table — strangers looking for a place to cast their cares.

One person had a nephew with an ailment. Another with schizophrenia who claimed to see witches.

A man in town for legal business put his papers on the table and just walked outside, Pastor Rusert following. “I heard all the unuttered prayers and pains he had held inside for two years:” divorce, legal problems, drug overdoses, and death.

Now, people stop to pray with him every time.

Sometimes, we have to move beyond the steeple to care for our people. And in so doing, we may just find that God takes care of us, too.

Therefore beseech the Lord of the harvest to send out workers into His harvest. (Matthew 9:38)

Remember what Martin Luther said, “Pray, and let God worry.”

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You’re Cordially Invited

Bent Creek Baptist Lady’s Ministry invites you to Christmas Tea.

Join us, Saturday, December 12th, 10 to 12 am at the Fellowship Building.

Guest speaker, Chris Jennings will encourage us to look “Higher.”

Sing up starting November 8th.

Contact BCBCLadies@gmail.com if you are interested in decorating a table.


Christmas Tea

Don’t let You’re Testimony for God Suffer

Charles Spurgeon once said, “The more you know about Christ, the less you will be satisfied with superficial views of him.”

You’ve been there. Some people make you want to to cry out, “Stop it! You are an annoying and pitiful boor!”

But before you do, Pastor Ben Reed, of the Saddleback Community Church, reminds us that responding in this way just makes the boor dislike you, and you’re testimony for our God suffers. Just ask a scribes and Pharisees who’s actions provoked Jesus to his wits end!

“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but inside they are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.… (Matthew 23:27)

Dead man’s bones? Hmm. It seems that even Jesus got frustrated at times.

For us, it’s important to stay composed. Don’t let your emotions become a barrier to the ability of others to experience Christ’s love. Here are some reminders that will facilitate the ability of your friends to experience the joy of Christ through you.


Be a listener. Get started, not by doing, but by listening. It’s not necessary to speak first. It’s more important to be listened to last.

Be there. Make the effort to connect. Share a well-timed, targeted, and relevant truth in the moment.

Be real. Your friends want reassurance that the person you appear to be is really you. Be open and honest about your struggles and victories.

Be consistent. Once you make a commitment, show up whether or not you feel like it. Consistency builds trust. Trust opens the door for Christ.

Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, (Titus 2:78)


Give more than expected. Go beyond the minimum effort. Engage, support, and enjoy your friends.

Give grace. When everybody expects you to go 100% for truth, go all the way with grace.

in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)


Remember names. It shows you care. If you can’t remember a person’s name, examine your motives.

Remember the little things. Facebook makes it easy to remember birthdays, anniversaries, and special events. Or, go old school, and use a calendar.

Remember His wonderful deeds, which He has done, His marvels and the judgments from His mouth, (1 Chronicles 16:12)


Share your story. It’s a gift to share your life in a way that focuses on the love and grace of God.

Share resources. What you have is really only yours on loan. Share things, knowledge, and time.

Share love. Care enough to make a connection. Give support during challenging times.

And do not forget to do good and to share with others, for with such sacrifices God is pleased. (Hebrews 13:16)

And always…

Be yourself. Be all that God created you to be. Are you funny, contemplative, patient, gregarious, intellectual? These are God’s gifts to you. Use them to further the plan Jesus has for you.

For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)

Pray for the Earthquake Victims in Nepal

I will lie down in peace and sleep, for you alone, O LORD, will keep me safe. (Psalm 4:8)

Many people in Nepal were in church when the earthquake first hit. The power went out, followed by a long and violent tremor. Churchgoers began praying and crying out to God for protection and safety. The congregation ran to exit the building, reports The Baptist Standard.

“We stood up and had time to hang onto each other but were then thrown to the ground,” said a survivor. “I would describe trying to get out like being on a trampoline with people carrying it and you’re trying to walk from one side of it to the other — completely off-centered and unsettling, nearly impossible. We both prayed, ‘Lord, please let us get out of this building.’”

Be gracious to me, O God, be gracious to me, For my soul takes refuge in You; And in the shadow of Your wings I will take refuge until destruction passes by. (Psalm 57:1)

The 7.8-magnitude earthquake, which occurred last Saturday about 50 miles outside the capital of Kathmandu reached as far as India, Bangladesh, and Tibet. It has been followed by more than 50 aftershocks.

What can we do?

First, support the rescuers.

RELEVANT, a website for young Christian adults, advises that this is not the time for individuals to go to Nepal. “The best thing that people can do is donate cash to a reputable organization that’s working over there.” Samaritan’s Purse, for example, is deploying a team 16 people to Nepal. They will take supplies for 15,000 households and work out of emergency shelters and hospitals to help the victims. You can donate here.

Most importantly, commit to pray for those in need.

  • Pray for those who lost family members.
  • Pray for those who are hungry and need shelter.
  • Pray for those who have not yet been found.
  • Pray for aid workers who are going to and working in a devastating situation.

Dear Lord,

We need you now to calm the fear, stress, and anxiety of those suffering from the Nepal earthquake. Please take their heavy burdens. Replace them with your humble and gentle yoke so they will find rest for their souls. Be with them so they can lie down tonight in peace and sleep. Please keep them daily, Lord, in your perfect peace.

Go here to add your prayer for the earthquake victims.

Time for the Second Annual BCBC Skeet Shoot and Cookout!

And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. (Colossians 3:17)

Did you know that sporting clays originated in England in the early 1900’s. Bird hunters who wanted an off-season way to practice created it. The sport came to the United States in the late 1980’s. Today, it’s the fastest growing shotgun shooting sport, with over 20,000 members in the National Sporting Clays Association.

At BCBC we have our own special version of sporting clays (aka skeet shooting). Normally, the event is meant to simulate the action of bird hunting. The BCBC variation is meant to stimulate fellowship and hot dog eating.

The secret to our event involves creating an electrical connection between Brent’s truck and the clay disk mechanically flinger thingy. The game ends when Brent’s battery runs dry or we run out of hot dogs, whichever comes second.

So, join us on April 18th for the Second Annual BCBC Skeet Shoot and Cookout sponsored by the BCBC Men’s Ministry. The location for the event is the same — somewhere in the middle of Mike’s cow pasture. But meet at the church parking lot at 12:45 pm so we can carpool to the shooting range. This will cut down on the number of cars that have cow patties stick to the underside of their fenders.

Guns, ammo, targets, and vittles will be provided. Don’t bring your own firearms, but do bring your own hearing/eye protection. You might also bring a hat to protect your head from the sun and a chair to rest your butt between turns at the firing range.

The entry fee is $25/person, $20/person plus an extra hot dog if you bring more than 1 person. After all, in addition to fellowship, our objective is to provide a vehicle for outreach to the community.

We had a great time last year and look forward to more of the same this year.

A signup sheet is on the information desk in the worship center lobby. We need this information so we know how many supplies to get. If you can’t make it to the lobby, call the church office for assistance in signing up. 828-667-9818

Looking forward to seeing you, and try to bring a friend!

The Resurrection of Christ…

he-is-risen_t_nv“The resurrection of Christ changed the midnight of bereavement into a sunrise of reunion; it changed the midnight of disappointment into a sunrise of joy; it changed the midnight of fear to a sunrise of peace.” Billy Graham, 2014

Jesus Christ rose from the dead as he promised! It is the chief proof of the Christian faith. It is the greatest news that mortal ears have ever heard.

“Christ is risen!”

“He is risen indeed!”

Please join us this Sunday (April 5th) at 11 am as we celebrate this most joyous event — Jesus’ victory over death.



Pastor Tommy Devotional: Are You Good Enough to Have a Relationship With God?

So when they had eaten breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me more than these? (John 21:15)

Simon Peter

How does your life compare to that of Simon Peter, the enthusiastic, strong-willed, impulsive fisherman who was one of the first followers of Jesus Christ? For three years, he lived as one of Jesus’ disciples and became the spokesman for the Twelve. It was Peter who first confessed Jesus as “the Christ, the Son of the living God,” a truth that Jesus said was divinely revealed to Peter.

Simon Peter answered, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.” Jesus replied, “Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah, for this was not revealed to you by flesh and blood, but by my Father in heaven.” (Matthew 16:16-17)

On the day of Pentecost, Peter was the main speaker to the crowd in Jerusalem. Arrests, beatings, and threats could not dampen Peter’s resolve to preach the risen Christ. If good works were the measure of a “good” Christian, Peter’s salvation was assured.

But wait! Despite his deep belief and allegiance to The Lord, it was Peter who denied knowing Jesus three times.

Peter swore, “A curse on me if I’m lying—I don’t know this man you’re talking about!” And immediately the rooster crowed the second time.

Suddenly, Jesus’ words flashed through Peter’s mind: “Before the rooster crows twice, you will deny three times that you even know me.” And he broke down and wept. (Mark 14:71-72)

Despite all his strengths, Peter had failed. Still, the Lord did not forsake him but continued to mold Peter into exactly who Jesus intended Peter to be.

It was on the banks of the Sea of Galilee that Jesus appeared to the disciples for the third time after his resurrection. He helped them catch fish and cooked breakfast. Most importantly, Jesus guided Peter to come to grips with his limited (read human) ability to love (phileo: reciprocal love) compared with the love (agapao: endless, unselfish, non-reciprocal love) of God.

The good news is that it’s okay not to be perfect. Jesus Christ, God’s only Son taught us that Christianity is about grace, mercy, and forgiveness. The fact is that none of us can live up to a set of laws as a means for going to heaven. Fortunately, the path to salvation is not through good works. It comes by asking God to forgive our sins as we place our faith in Jesus Christ as our Savior.

Always remember…

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16).

Want to learn more? Then join us every Sunday morning at 11 am as we thank the Lord for his love and forgiveness. Our pastoral staff and congregation would love to meet your and share our love for Christ.

Also, please feel free to call Pastor Tommy for a free copy of Andy Stanley’s book How Good is Good Enough. It will help you grow your relationship with God. Contact Pastor Tommy at 828-667-9818 or email Tommy@bentcreekbaptist.org.



Mark Your Calendars for Adult Ministry Events

And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another. (Hebrews 10:24-25)

Essential features in the life of the church are active Men’s Ministry, Women’s Ministry, and ministry programs for seniors. The heart of BCBC rests on the passion and spiritual maturity of our men and women in Christian fellowship and service.

Please mark your calendars and join us during 2015. More information will be published on this site as we get closer to the events.

Men’s Ministry activities for 2015

  • January 15th: Asheville Buncombe Community Christian Ministries (ABCCM)
    • Join us to help prepare dinner, offer fellowship and service
  • February 28th: Pole Creek Outdoorsman Banquet
  • April 18th
    • Skeet Shooting
  • June 7th
    • Breakfast and Bible School Training
  • August 29th
    • Tailgate Party
  • October 2nd to 4th
    • Men’s Retreat
  • December 5th
    • Men’s Ministry Breakfast

Women’s Ministry activities for 2015

  • February 21st: Embrace, Connect, Serve
  • April 25th, all day: Book and Bake Sale in the frame building
    • Fiction, non fiction, children, travel, devotional, cooking, ebook covers,and puzzles (with all pieces).
    • Baked good and muffins
      • Contributors should bring them to the frame building on Friday 24th, 6-7pm
    • Come try The Bent Creek Blend coffee!
  • May 29th – 31st, all day
    • Women’s Spring Retreat
  • July 10th, all day
    • Beth Moore in Greenville, SC
  • August 29th, all day
    • Church-wide Family Tailgate Party
  • September 12th, all day
    • Fall Retreat at BCBC
  • October 20th, all day
    • Soup and Salad Dinner
  • December 12th, all day
    • Christmas Tea

Senior activities sponsored by our Young at Heart Sunday School members.

  • March 6th, 2015, Friday, 4:00 pm
    • Mark Lowery & The Martins get together
  • March 21st, 2015, 4:00 pm
    • Chili/Potato Bar and Desserts
  • March 29th, 2015, Sunday
    • 5th Sunday Night Gospel Singing
  • April 18th, 2015, Saturday, all day
    • Narroway Theater
  • June 1st, all day
    • Hymn Sing at The Cove

The Men and Women's Ministry teams want to make sure that we have your updated information. Keep up-to-date with upcoming events by completing the form below. Then click to submit the info to John Russo. Thanks, and God Bless.

Give Your Children the Gift of Jesus

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

“faith seeking understanding”

Freedom of choice is every American’s birthright. Accordingly, many American parents profess that religious truth is a matter of personal discovery. Therefore, their children should be free to discover it on their own.

It sounds so logical, so 21st century, so flawed.

Letting your daughter or son “make up” their own mind about religion is misguided because it fails to recognize how children learn to reason in the first place. Children come into this world as a chalice, a gift from the Lord waiting to be filled. If parents fail in their duty to fill that space with a strong moral foundation — guiding their children in recognizing right from wrong — others may fill it with quicksand.

Everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not act on them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. (Matthew 7:26)

“Children do not choose religious identity a la carte,” says Pastor Jason Stubblefield of Narrows First United Methodist Church, in Virginia. “Letting kids make up their minds about religion implicitly makes up their minds for them… It teaches them that they have the sort of minds that ‘Enlightenment rationality’ assumes [that it’s science and rationalism that offer authentic truth].”

“It teaches them, Pastor Stubblefield continues, “that their thinking comes before God, rather than the other way around.” It reverses St. Anselm’s dictum, which contends that the theological virtue of faith lays the groundwork for all understanding. In the absence of this foundation reason becomes arbitrary rather than the imprint of our God who ordered all creation and is the architect of the minds we use to reason.

This Christmas give your children the gift of Jesus.

Join us at Bent Creek Baptist Church on Sunday, December 21st, 11:00 am for Christmas Communion Service. During this special time families in our congregation will participate in the service with their children.

Also, don’t miss our Christmas Eve service on Wednesday, December 24th, 5:30-6:30 pm.

Meeting the Need for Friendships Among Men

That we may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith, both yours and mine. (Romans 1:12)

Clarence Shepard Day, Jr.: An American author, best known for his 1935 work Life With Father.

Research shows that the key to a long, happy life is not diet or exercise but strong social connections — in other words, friendships.

Yet, men are not good at this. Their inability to bond with other men even has a name — Male Deficit Model. Male friendships are less intimate than female friendships, and because there’s greater interpersonal competition, men experience lower friendship satisfaction.

“Most men,” according to psychologist Stuart Miller, “don’t let themselves think or feel about friendship; this immense collective and personal disappointment is usually concealed, sloughed over, shrugged away.” Moreover, “The older we get, the more we accept our essential friendlessness.” It’s not good psychologically. It’s also not good physically, with a correlation between loneliness and the activity of certain genes associated with systemic inflammation, which raise the risk for viral invasion and cardiovascular disease.

Surprisingly, married life does not appear to be a cure for loneliness. An Australian Study showed that family relationships have almost no impact on longevity. Friendships, by contrast, boost life span up to 22%.

What’s a man to do?

How about joining a church and becoming active in men’s activities? Here at BCBC the Men’s Ministry Outreach program provides opportunities for men to interact and bond. Outreach programs such as our work with ABCCM, as well as the men’s retreat, and sporting events are available.

Also, men might consider participating in the Men’s Bible Study on Sunday night at 6 pm at the church. We discuss the bible, with a focus on issues that matter to men, in the company of other men.

Here’s your invitation to join us. For more information about men’s activities at BCBC call the church office 828-667-9818. You man call Aaron Creasman (828-777-1272) or email Brent Besosa brent@4outdoorsmen.net of the Men’s Ministry. And Dale Butler dale@bentcreekbaptist.com of the Men’s Bible Study group would love to hear from you.


Christmas Caroling in the Bent Creek Community

And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying, Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men. (Luke 2:13-14).

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

There are historical records from as early as 129 AD of songs written specifically for Christmas celebrations.The history and evolution of caroling as a way to celebrate Christmas is recorded here. However, you can join us on Thursday, December 18th to start our own bit of history.

We will meet at the Bent Creek Community Park at 6:30 pm to enjoy caroling in the community and return to the park for a bonfire and hot chocolate. We look forward to residents in the community joining us.

Don’t forget to bring a flashlight and warm clothes!

Contribute to Operation Shoebox

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. (Psalm 127:3)

It’s world’s largest Christmas project of its kind, Operation Christmas Child uses gift-filled shoeboxes to demonstrate God’s love to needy children around the world.

Since 1993, this Samaritan’s Purse project has collected and delivered more than 113 million gift-filled shoeboxes to children in more than 100 countries.

Shoebox gifts are collected in the United States, Australia, New Zealand, Canada, Finland, Germany, Japan, Spain, and the United Kingdom. More than 500,000 volunteers worldwide, including more than 100,000 volunteers the United States, are involved in the program.

Bent Creek Baptist enthusiastically supports Operation Shoebox. National Collection Week starts November 17th, with Monday the 24th being the final day to deliver boxes to the church. A volunteer from the church will then see that the boxes are sent to the appropriate distribution center for shipping around the world.

Click here and here to see the impact of Operation Shoebox around the word.

3 Biggest Benefits of the BCBC Community Yard Sale

The Bent Creek Community Yard Sale is scheduled for September 20, 2014, at 7:00 am – 1:00 pm..

Here are the three benefits of this event.

yard_saletrans1. Find unique treasures that you wouldn’t spend money on in a store, but are affordable at yard sale prices.

2. Keep stuff out of landfills, especially baby toys that are used for a short time and made of plastic.

3. Meet the neighbors while engaging kids in an outdoor activity.

Mark you calendar.

See you at Bent Creek Baptist Church


Tucker Besosa: Prophets and Custodians

No one lights a lamp and puts it in a place where it wlll be hidden, or under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand so that those who come in may see the light. (Luke 11:33)


The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. (John 1:5) Painting by Tucker Besosa 7/27/13

All active Christians position themselves along a continuum ranging from prophet to custodian. Prophets, according to one article, look at the status quo and wonder why it isn’t different. They’re impatient for change and driven by a vision for something better.

Custodians may share this vision, but feel more suited to maintain order and function. They keep the lights on and the trains running on time — the very trains the prophets use daily! Most of us combine the two in different degrees, and active participants along the entire spectrum are necessary for a successful church.

Tucker Besosa, on his mission in Nicaragua (not Australia; that’s the other Besosa lad) , seems to be considering his place along the spectrum of Christian believers. He writes on Facebook, “For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes: first to the Jew, then to the Gentile. (Romans 1:16)

He continues, “Too many times I have kept my mouth shut when I should have been screaming. Too many times I haven’t stood up for what I believe in, but not any more.” (more…)

The Arrival: Vacation Bible School at Bent Creek Baptist Church

IMG_2475Sunday, June 15th, was the first night of Vacation Bible School for 2014, which continues through Thursday, June 19th. The title of VBS 2014 is “The Arrival”.

This year we will follow Mary and Joseph as they travel to Bethlehem and the birth of Jesus.

Seventy-five children are pre-registered, and 89 BCBC church members have volunteered their time and talents to make this a rewarding experience for the children, many of whom will begin their journey in Christian faith.

If you haven’t registered your child for The Arrival, there’s still time. Bring your child (children) to the church tomorrow, Monday evening, at 6 pm and register for the remainder of the program. Each night is highlighted by live drama, with visits from angels, shepherds, and wise men. Farm animals, live music, and snacks ensure an enjoyable experience. Costumes will be provided for all the children and adults.

The Arrival runs this week from 6 pm to 8:30 pm Monday through Thursday.

Call the church office for more information. 828-667-9818

Time to Barbecue for Vision Nicaragua

BCBC supports Vision Nicaragua missions. Several times each year we visit our friends there and help provide for their material needs, as well as minister to them so they might come to know our Lord and His saving grace through His son, Jesus Christ.

To prepare for our next trip (next Tuesday, July 1st), a barbecue lunch fundraiser will be held on June 29th (Sunday) at noon after the morning worship service.

Please join us in the Fellowship Building for fine food, friendly fellowship and fruitful fundraising.

For more information visit the Vision Nicaragua website.

Lauren Parham

Lauren Parham

Also, we are blessed to count Lauren Parham among our own. Lauren is a full-time staff member of Vision Nicaragua, and is a member of their Board. Contact lauren.parham@gmail.com

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• Evangelism and the Millennial Generation

millennialsevangelism-01-300x300Millennials (18 to 29 year olds) are the only generation among whom evangelism (faith-sharing practices) rose significantly from 56% in 2010 to 65% in 2013.

As reported in Christianity Today, there is a vigorous level of enthusiasm among born-again evangelicals. Eighty-five percent of believers ages 18 to 29 agree that they have a responsibility to share the gospel with unbelievers, and 69% of those same people feel comfortable sharing their faith.

However, only 25% of them look for ways to share the gospel and 27% of them intentionally build friendships with unbelievers in order to do so.

Overall, the findings are good news for our youth leaders. They suggest that Millennials feel open to sharing their faith and should be responsive to efforts to spread the good news.

More about this study and related research about the Millennial generation and evangelism can be found here.

BCBC VBS Overview


VBS 2013

On June 14 – 18 BCBC will present VBS 2015. Come back to the BCBC Website for more information as we prepare for “THE CALLING”.

For now, here is a history of VBS at BCBC.

VBS features realistic, staged outdoor sets with costumed adults as well as costumed children! See last year’s Fall of Jericho youtube on our VBS page.

Created and choreographed by Chris Jennings, this year’s theme is THE ARRIVAL: The greatest story ever told – the birth of the Savior, Jesus. You can read more about it and pre-register your child on our VBS site.

Prior years’ themes were:

THE CROSSING: Bible stories involving the time just prior to crossing into the Promised Land including the investigation of the Promised Land, the Israelites’ doubt and a generation banned, the faith of Rahab, the anointing of Joshua and death of Moses, crossing the Jordan River and the destruction of Jericho. Nightly themes: “God’s People Rise”, “God’s People Fall”, God’s People Rebuild”, “God’s People Cross Over”, and “God’s People Conquer”. (2013)

THE WANDERING: Bible stories around the time the Israelites spent in the wilderness including miracles in the desert, the Ten Commandments, manna, constructing the Tabernacle and the items to be used in it, the golden calf and the Shikina Glory. Nightly themes:” God’s Plan for Provision”, “God’s Plan for Worship”, “God’s Plan for Living”, “God’s Plan for Relationship”, and “God’s Plan for the Plunder”. (2012)

THE EXODUS: The stories of Moses’ birth, the burning bush, the plagues, Passover and crossing the Red Sea. Nightly themes: “God Hears Me”, “God Sees Me”, “God Cares About Me”, “God Has a Plan for Me” and “God Will Rescue Me”. (2011)

THE JOURNEY: Egypt: Joseph’s Journey from Prison to Palace. Nightly Themes: “God Gives Us Hope”, “God Gives Us Special Abilities”, “God Gives Us Wisdom”, “God Gives Us Forgiveness”, and “God Gives Us a Family”. (2010)


• Need a Marriage Assessment?

divorceHaven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator made them ‘male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.? So they are no longer two, but one flesh.’ Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate. (Matthew 19:4-6)

The BCBC pastoral staff is available to meet with you for an assessment of your marriage. Call the church office to make an appointment. 828-667-9818

• The Next Step

discipleshipYou will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses ….” (Acts 1:8)

“…serve one another with whatever gift each of you have received.” 1 Peter 4:10

It’s not our job to self-judge the value of our gifts and abilities. They’re all important because they are gifts from the Holy Spirit. In fact, research* into the evangelistic activities of Southern Baptist churches confirms the blessings associated with a broad range of outreach and evangelistic activities. Here are some examples shown to contribute significantly to the growth of a church congregation. (more…)

• Support Life: Asheville Pregnancy Support Center

Children are an inheritance from the LORD. They are a reward from him. (Psalm 127:3)

The Ultrasound Clinic at Asheville Pregnancy Support Center exists to reveal the miracle of new life. Each week, an average of 4 babies are saved as their mothers learn the truth about the life they are carrying.

BCBC supports this worthwhile program through donations and purchase of mother’s day cards. Check at the front desk for greeting cards. Also, call APSS to learn how you can support this service though donations.

Click here to learn more about the services provided at APSS.

Thanks to Park Ridge Health for underwriting the cost of this Mother’s Day Tribute.