Thoughts for Valentine’s Day

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18)



Many women have discovered to their dismay that there’s an awful lot of bad sex out there, says Margaret Wente, writing in The Globe and Mail.

They’ve been told to have a superpositive sex life — unconflicted, joyous, casual, and abundant. “They’ve been told they should be able to have as many partners and initiate sex just as often as men do.”

They’ve tried all that.

And, surprise, it hasn’t worked out very well! “Instead of feeling superpositive, they feel sexually dissatisfied, emotionally disconnected, and more than a little used.”

The trouble isn’t men or culture. The trouble is that these women bought into a lie. Rick Warren tells us, “Some things are hard wired in us by God; we know they are always right or always wrong, no matter what anybody else says. Our conscience tells us this.”

And your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” when you turn to the right or when you turn to the left. (Isaiah 30:21

“A women’s best strategy is to be selective.” Something in the soul longs for meaningful relationships. The key is to take time, lots of time (three dates are not enough), to know someone and be known by them. Treasure the relationships that allow you to truly “be yourself.”

A woman sharing intimacy with a man is the most special thing she can offer. Never give it casually. Always remember that you are special in the eyes of the Lord.

Or don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

You’re Getting There, One Brave Day at a Time

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:7)

Brave mamas and papas. I used to think the “brave” referred to facing the long days, the tired babies, the relentless needs of our precious children. Teaching them and letting them go as they grow up. Braving the hard that comes with parenting and marriage.

I was wrong.

Brave mamas and papas you are brave because you’re staring Satan in the eyes each day and telling him he can not have your family. You’re standing up to the brokenness that surround your young ones. In the world and in your home. The competing themes that pull in you and your Godly intentions for your babies. We wake up every morning, and sometimes during the night, and we brave the chance that our reaction will be impatient, selfish, unloving, unkind. Whether you feel it each evening as you start the nighttime routine, or if you haven’t felt it in awhile, the opportunity for an impatient and tired response is there. But that’s not what God intended.

The Lord be with your spirit. Grace be with you. (2 Timothy 4:22)

It could be the subtle message you send your kids when you’re more concerned with updating your status on FB. The message that tells them they don’t come before others, or they’re not interesting enough.

It could be the way you treat your spouse when you’re tired and rushing to get out the door. When you ignore the moment it takes to kiss goodbye, or spend the moment being short with each other, instead of saying “I love you.” I’m guilty of this too.

It’s all disguised as a small, don’t-give-it-a-second-thought reaction to the hustle and bustle of the day.

Don’t be fooled.

This is Satan at work, slowly and systematically breaking down the safety net in your kids world. Playing with the subconscious of your spouse as they wonder why that moment wasn’t worth a friendly loving goodbye.

If we remember, God asked us to multiply, to have a family and be stewards to our little ones and to hold each other up as husband and wife. Satan would like nothing more than to tear our family down. If you suffer in your marriage, spend time reconnecting. Don’t let Satan have a clear shot at your children through a broken connection with your spouse. Pray for each other. Find time to spend together.

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (James 4:7)

If you can’t find the energy to marvel at your children no matter the age, get away for a morning and recharge your batteries. Then go back to them and stare at them closely as they tell you something about their day. It will come back to you. The wonder and amazement they bring to your heart. Think past the difficult season you might be in to where you want your family to be in the future. You’re getting there, one brave day at a time


Edited from Lisa LaFortune: Families! Change the World blog.

You’re Cordially Invited

Bent Creek Baptist Lady’s Ministry invites you to Christmas Tea.

Join us, Saturday, December 12th, 10 to 12 am at the Fellowship Building.

Guest speaker, Chris Jennings will encourage us to look “Higher.”

Sing up starting November 8th.

Contact BCBCLadies@gmail.com if you are interested in decorating a table.


Christmas Tea

Summer Women’s Bible Study: Deuteronomy

“He brought us out…that He might bring us in…” (Deuteronomy 6:23)

Women of all ages are invited to participate in the women’s bible study group at BCBC.

This summer, we will discuss Beth Moore’s book Deuteronomy — The Law of Love. In June we will meet on Wednesday the 24th, at 6 pm in the Worship Center. Then, we will meet the 1st and 3rd Wednesdays in July and and August.

Why Deuteronomy?

Deuteronomy is a surprising book to most people. It’s concepts are beautifully and articulately presented, including our never-ending need for God, His presence in our everyday lives, trusting Him for daily miracles, learning to live in the blessings He gives us, and relying on His guidance in every situation we face.

In fact, Deuteronomy has been called the Moses version of Yeshua’s Sermon on the Mount.

Contact the church office for more information. 828-667-9818

“Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9)





Raising Our Boys to be Men

The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit. (Proverbs 15:4)

“Oak trees don’t happen over night. Growing in grace and wisdom and stature isn’t an immediate download — it happens the way a tree grows up: over decades,” writes Ann Voskamp, author of One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are.*

Keep that visual of oak trees. Our husbands can be oak trees… when we let them. Our sons will grow into strong, sturdy, yet graceful oak trees… hopefully. The two are connected, and we (as girlfriends first, then wives and mothers) hold the key.

Yet, we swim against the tide. Today’s culture chops men down — telling them they’re neither strong, nor mighty, not even needed. Piling on, we get frustrated because we don’t have patience for them to get messy or time to try again. Why can’t they be better, learn faster, or just know?

It’s sad to watch our men (read husbands and sons) caught in this tug of war — confused and not knowing what they have to offer. If we’re raising boys to be men shouldn’t we make them proud of their natural abilities, delight in them, encourage them, and give them time to discover?

We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; (2 Corinthians 4:8)

The secret to raising boys is to show (not just teach) what it means to be a man. In their blog, Adena and Amy tell us, “In a world that constantly says men and women need to be equal, we often feel that means that as women, we need to act like men… Not so. Being a woman, which in and of itself is powerful and noble and awesome, inspires men — all the best parts of being a man: being protective; hard-working; a pillar of support; a provider who takes pride in his ability to care for his family; an example of strength, morality, right and wrong, ethics and proper behavior. These are the noble parts of being a man. If we supplant that role, deny it to our spouses, they are left as mere placeholders in the family structure.” It’s not the best example for our sons to emulate.

Let’s step back from our need to “do”. Many times each day we’re faced with the option to let him (sons and husbands) fill the shoes that are waiting for him. We are empowered to carefully select the time to accept and respect versus criticize. We have the power to choose to embrace his differences instead of rejecting and supplanting them. We have the responsibility to nourish, prune, and ultimately to love.

He is like a tree planted by flowing streams; it yields its fruit at the proper time, and its leaves never fall off. He succeeds in everything he attempts. (Psalm 1:3)

As we model this in our homes our children will grow up less confused. They’ll actually grow into strong oak trees, or a beautiful and equally needed wild flower. BONUS! http://icons.iconarchive.com/icons/rokey/the-blacy/128/red-heart-icon.png

Thanks to Lisa LaFortune at Families! Change the World blog.

*Bent Creek Baptist Church is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program. By clicking the book cover shown above your purchase of this book on Amazon will earn BCBC a fee from Amazon.com. Thank you for your support.

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Ladies, you are cordially invited to

“Elizabeth’s Reflections,

Celebrating a Christmas Frozen in Time”

Shared by Michelle Butler

Annual Women’s Ministry Christmas Tea

Saturday, December 13th

2 – 4 pm

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New Women’s Bible Study Starts Wednesday

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. (Ephesians 4:29)

A new women’s bible study program will start on Wednesday, November 5th at 6:30 pm at the BCBC worship center.

Discussions will center on the Mary Kassian book titled Conversation Peace: The Power of Transformed Speech.

Ms. Kassian masterfully presents seven biblical principles to help women revolutionize their speech habits and positively avoid sharing gossip, throwing negative barbs, or snapping sarcastic replies throughout everyday life.

Improve your relationships by allowing God’s word to transform your heart.

Seven 20-minute video teaching sessions are provided plus viewer guides will facilitate group video sessions of this in-depth women’s Bible study.

Fellowship by the Lake

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. (2 Timothy 1:5)

This Tuesday, October 21st starting at 6 pm, the ladies of BCBC will hold their annual Women’s Night Out at the Biltmore Lake Clubhouse.

You’re invited to attend. The clubhouse is located at 80 Lake Drive, Candler.

Bring soup or salad if you can. Otherwise, just bring yourself.



Mark Your Calendar for Women’s Night Out

But we do not belong to those who shrink back and are destroyed, but to those who have faith and are saved. (Hebrews 10:39)

It’s easy to get caught up in our daily lives and let events distract us from living for God. Maybe the strongest and most pointed passage about fellowship is in Hebrews 10 when Paul says that some have stopped meeting and are neglecting fellowship.

and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near. (Hebrews 10:24-25)

It’s a message that’s important for women of faith.

Take a night out to let go of daily distractions and focus on fellowship with God and each other at Bent Creek Baptist Church during Women’s Night Out on Tuesday, October 21 at 6 pm. We will meet at the Lake Club House.

Bring a salad or dessert  and Drink to share!



March for Marriage

Marriage by God’s design is the union of one man and one woman. (Genesis 2:18)

every-child-deserves-mom-dad-elvertbarnes-flickrYesterday (June 19th) was the second annual March for Marriage. Organized by the National Organization for Marriage (NOM), the event served as a platform for Americans to make their voices heard on behalf of marriage as the union of one man and one woman. The number of people who gathered in front of the Supreme Court was in the “thousands,” according to Jennifer Marshall at The Heritage Foundation.

You may remember that Proposition 8 was passed in 2008, with over 7 million votes (52%), to amend California’s State Constitution to define marriage as the union of one man and one woman. It was the second time Californians had voted to preserve the definition of marriage. Despite this, the US Supreme Court upheld a subsequent legal challenge at the state level that invalidated the outcome of the vote.


Most news coverage about the NOM event and traditional marriage has been negative. It’s popular to claim that those who support the March for Marriage are on the “wrong side of history.” Yet, despite court rulings, the debate is not over. The issue is not settled. (more…)

Upcoming Women’s Ministry Events

dv1535077She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. (Proverbs 31:26)

Mark your calendars now for these upcoming BCBC Women’s Ministry events.

  • “Don’t Fall Apart” Bible Study in the Sanctuary: September 13, 2014, 9:00 am
  • Christmas Tea in the Fellowship Building: December 6, 2014, all day
  • Bible Study with Jane Derrick at “The Cove”: January 6, 2015, 9:45 am

New Women’s Bible Study

UnknownBeth Moore’s “Here and Now, There and Then” will be the topic of an 11-week study of Revelation.

It all starts Wednesday, May 28th at 6:30 pm in the BCBC Worship Center. Call the church office for more information. 828-667-9818

Beth Moore founded Living Proof Ministries in 1994 to teach women how to love and live on God’s Word. Through the years, American missionaries and expatriates have taken the Bible studies overseas, resulting in Beth Moore Bible study groups popping up all over the world.

Please join us for this rewarding video-driven study (minimal homework).




• Support Life: Asheville Pregnancy Support Center

Children are an inheritance from the LORD. They are a reward from him. (Psalm 127:3)

The Ultrasound Clinic at Asheville Pregnancy Support Center exists to reveal the miracle of new life. Each week, an average of 4 babies are saved as their mothers learn the truth about the life they are carrying.

BCBC supports this worthwhile program through donations and purchase of mother’s day cards. Check at the front desk for greeting cards. Also, call APSS to learn how you can support this service though donations.

Click here to learn more about the services provided at APSS.

Thanks to Park Ridge Health for underwriting the cost of this Mother’s Day Tribute.