Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. (Psalm 127:3)
Ahhhhh. Life after a new baby, our third baby ☺️, leaves my thoughts jumbled.
I was thinking lately about how we grown-ups have a tendency to want to start and then finish things quickly, especially with kids. Do you ever forget to enjoy the process of things?
Even when we don’t have a.n.y.t.h.i.n.g. else to do in our day, we tend to rush the little ones or feel anxious over the messes they make. When that happens I ask myself, “Is my love patient and kind?”
Paul reminds us that patience and kindness are two of the nine attributes of a Christian life.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. (Galatians 5:22:23)
Young children certainly like to pause on things for longer than we might like. But rushing them just ruins the fun of it and detracts from their learning. Our model for these times is found in Psalms.
But you, O Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness. (Psalm 86:15)
I know part of my experience with this is because I’m always aware of how much longer the baby will nap, or how much time I have before the next nursing session. So, I want to make sure the boys and I complete what we are doing. But is this ruining the learning and fun? Wouldn’t it be better to take just a short break?
The blessing of our children having precious memories is framed by us as patient parents. It’s the blessing to teach them something that might shape their future selves. It’s the blessing of a full and joyous relationship. It’s the blessing of them trusting us when they make a mistake.
So, I hope we make the effort to do lots of things with our families, even though sometimes it’s hard and messy. Most of all, I hope we remember to take our time with each other, one mess at a time, one spill at a time, and one memory at a time.
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. (Ephesians 4:2)
Edited from Lisa LaFortune: Families! Change the World blog