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Warm Sweet Junes

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.  (Proverbs 31:10)

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Cougar Adult Groomin beautiful amazing

I’m reading Secrets of the Proverbs 31 Woman by Rae Simons. One chapter tells a great story picture about marriage that I thought I’d share. It’s about gaining perspective over time. About how marriage is in part about the art of reconciliation. Being able to reconcile differences and trusting each other with our intentions and our shortcomings.

This woman is totally faithful to her husband. He can have confidence in her, because she will not let him down….

He does not maintain jealous guard over her or keep his valuables locked up so that she cannot access them. (Proverbs 31:11)

Your husband needs to be able to count on your ability to love him no matter what and even give him a pass if he’s a little more self-consumed or preoccupied one day.

And husbands, giving your wife the benefit of the doubt when she’s just not herself, and building up a trust where she knows it won’t be held against her is crucial. This trust in one another is the bridge between you.

It is the only way to keep walls from going up. Walls that could block the sun when seasons change…

The author says, “Like the seasons, married love has cycles. Sometimes our marriages may seem cold and dead as January, but if we wait, if we’re patient, spring always comes once more… It would be easier to run away the first time November’s chilly gray skies settle over our marriages. But just think of all the warm, sweet June’s we would miss if we did!”

The author talks about the greater perspective after going through these ups and downs… and back ups. The marriage ceremony doesn’t “cancel out our selfish nature”. Instead it’s a continued understanding that things will get hard now and then, but it’s the dedication to reconciling differences for a lifetime that gets you through.

Waaaarm sweeeet Juuuuunes. ☀️🍡

Edited from Lisa LaFortune: Families! Change the World blog.

 

 


Compassion is a Dad Characteristic

Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these. (Matthew 19:14)

Dads always find the time to join us at our little tea party, even when they’re very busy. Soosh

Dads always find the time to join us at our little tea party, even when they’re very busy. Soosh

I want to share something that happened in my home recently.

My husband came downstairs from studying and says, “Well, I didn’t get much reading done just now. Keira (our daughter) and I have been having a great conversation for the last 45 minutes.”

You see, he has been studying and reading non-stop, preparing for a final exam. He could have easily told Keira he needed to study more and didn’t have time to talk. But he didn’t.

He chose her.

He chose to show her that her thoughts and words matter — that he cares about her.

He chose to invest in their relationship — to spend 45 minutes talking (and listening) with her.

Knowing my daughter, I have no doubt they had a pretty deep conversation — most likely about theology and life. It was a conversation that wouldn’t have occurred, an opportunity that would’ve been missed, if he wasn’t the amazing man and daddy that he is.

He chose her.

Investing in your relationship with your children is invaluable. It sets the foundation for your future relationship. Taking time to listen  now shows them that what they have to think and say is important to you. It assures them that when they need you, you will listen, and will actually hear them.

Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

It’s all about setting a firm foundation for a lifelong relationship with your children. So that when they reach their teens (and beyond) they will be comfortable speaking with you. Why? Because, well, that’s just how it’s always been for them.

What they say matters. No matter their age.

Invest in them. Hear them.

Choose your children every day.

Edited from Christina Courie, Families! Change the World blog