Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. (Proverbs 31:10)
I’m reading Secrets of the Proverbs 31 Woman by Rae Simons. One chapter tells a great story picture about marriage that I thought I’d share. It’s about gaining perspective over time. About how marriage is in part about the art of reconciliation. Being able to reconcile differences and trusting each other with our intentions and our shortcomings.
This woman is totally faithful to her husband. He can have confidence in her, because she will not let him down….
He does not maintain jealous guard over her or keep his valuables locked up so that she cannot access them. (Proverbs 31:11)
Your husband needs to be able to count on your ability to love him no matter what and even give him a pass if he’s a little more self-consumed or preoccupied one day.
And husbands, giving your wife the benefit of the doubt when she’s just not herself, and building up a trust where she knows it won’t be held against her is crucial. This trust in one another is the bridge between you.
It is the only way to keep walls from going up. Walls that could block the sun when seasons change…
The author says, “Like the seasons, married love has cycles. Sometimes our marriages may seem cold and dead as January, but if we wait, if we’re patient, spring always comes once more… It would be easier to run away the first time November’s chilly gray skies settle over our marriages. But just think of all the warm, sweet June’s we would miss if we did!”
The author talks about the greater perspective after going through these ups and downs… and back ups. The marriage ceremony doesn’t “cancel out our selfish nature”. Instead it’s a continued understanding that things will get hard now and then, but it’s the dedication to reconciling differences for a lifetime that gets you through.
Waaaarm sweeeet Juuuuunes. ☀️🍡
Edited from Lisa LaFortune: Families! Change the World blog.